little sister?

Question

okay my sister shes 8 shes always wanting to go in my room...and i cant stand it...she always messes it up...but my parent let her in there and i get in trouble if i tell her to get out...they dotn get im 15 and she 8 i dont want little kids in there wat do i do?

Answer 1

Well sometimes life sucks. You must respect your parents. They aren't breaking the law so I guess your stuck listening to them like it or not.

There are things you can do though that will lessen your problems. I had a younger brother. He was always aloud in my room and I wasn't aloud to send him out. I respected my parents wishes, but so many times it worked out really bad for me. Like the time he broke my jewlery apart and glued them to paper pix he was making. I cried so hard. He got scolded by mom and dad, but that didn't help me much. Things didn't get any better till I took steps.

I started TELLING my brother he could play in my room. That gave me the power to lay down the rules. I put old jewlery and odds and ends I would have thrown away in the shoe box. I let him know if he wanted to make pictures with things he could use the things in the box. I never told him not to touch the jewlery box. I then let him know that I would let him in as much as he wanted to be if he cleaned up after himself.

See when I told him he could come to my room he had a total different attitude about being in there. He respected me and it built a bond between us. We became very close, and he wouldn't do anything to upset or make me feel bad. At first I made all kinds of reasons to be in my room when he was there. That way he was less likely to get into anything. I also gave him permission to bring some of his toys up there to play and keep them in the closet in a box.

Slowly but surely he weaned away from my room.

You need to be the one to invite your sister into your room.. Then you can become the rule maker. You have to make her feel wanted as well there. She will get to the point of cherishing those moments. You are an important figure to your little sister and being in your room helps her feel closer too you. Use those times to build on your relationship with her. When she isn't in your room invite her. Lay out rules after a while. Simple ones . The first one she needs to grasp is to stay out of your things. By setting her up with a small space of her own you can pull it off. After she gets that learned well let her know you love her coming into your room and the best way to be able to come would be to cleann up after herself. If she believes she is special to you it will work.

Answer 2

Talk to your Dad, and tell him that you would like some privacy, and that your sister makes a mess, and that you do not think it is fair. Ask him, how you can handle it, sometimes when you put it to an adult like that, then you get the issue to go the way you want it. Ask him, if he thinks a lock on the door will work?

Answer 3

Every time she goes to your room, you should go to hers. Start hanging around and going through her underware draw. Do somethings that she is do to you and give it back to her. If her friends are over tell them secretes about your sister that she finds embarrassing. You can get a wooden block shaped like a triangle and shut your door and jam it under the door. It will keep her from opening your door and is not a permanent lock that your parents should be putting on your door right now. Maybe if she walked in on you naked or you hung out in your room in just your undies she would get out too.
I hope you get her AA-ss out of your hair.
A mom who understands
Tracylyn S

Answer 4

First it's completely natural for your little sister to be in your room. Believe it or not she admires and looks up to you..that's why she wants to be in there. So whatever you do DON'T take it out on her.

You need to talk to your parents about it when your not upset. Simply tell them that sometimes you need some time to yourself and would it be possible to have a sign or something on your door that tells your little sister NOT to come in?? Of course you can't take advantage of this.

One other thought..how about giving her something to do before you go in your room?

Answer 5

You should discuss this with your family, without anger. SIt them down and tell them that you are 15 now and you would appreciate your privacy. Explain to them that if they want to keep letting her go in your room she should have to clean up her own mess. If you want to be treated like an adult you have to act like one.

Answer 6

Put a lock on the door.

Answer 7

price you will have to pay, until you move out.
set up ground rules, and talk to your little sister.

Answer 8

tell here