How can I stop myself from making myself unhappy?

Question

I think I punish myself (not physically but mentally) because I have little faith in myself.

Answer 1

Well you can try doing something good for yourself. Think of something fun and go for it. Set a goal and make it something to work for, you deserve it. Self esteem is important and if you lack it, it can be hard to build up. You might want to seek counseling it isn't a bad thing and can make one feel better and build self esteem.

Answer 2

The truth is our brains are far more powerful than is necessary for simple life. We must learn to mind our heads. You need to keep studying how the brain makes the aura and how the aura makes the emotions electrically. The brain hates to relearn anything especially math and religion. We don't get ear wax from bad religion but we get imbalanced chemicals in our spinal fluid when the brain has to relearn life. That makes real pain. Wrong expectations are a setup for disaster. Faith can keep you happy for a while but there better be some correct expectations for later. Unhappiness will change when we can manage life better as we learn to manage our emotions better as we learn to manage our auras. There are six things that we can do to change our aura.

Answer 3

Lack of self esteem is a pretty common problem. It could be a sign of depression or it could be a temporary thing because of something that has happened recently. Think about your life and all the good you have done. Concentrate on the positives. Talk to your friends, that's what good friends are for. I'm sure you're a good person who's just going through a rough patch. If you continue to be unhappy for more than a couple of weeks, talk to your doctor. Good Luck. Peace.

Answer 4

It really amounts to FORGIVING YOURSELF for not living up to unattainable standards. You have the idea you are not good at things or have done bad things. Those negative thoughts are self defeating because they make you feel down and you expect failure. So failure happens because you were so down you couldn't do your best. Then you chastise yourself for being so worthless. This cycle of negativity may induce you to not even try. You may not try for a job, say, because you, "wouldn't want to work for a company or individual that was so worthless that they would even hire you", HA!

The thing to do is to BREAK THIS PATTERN OF NEGATIVE THINKING about yourself! Start out anew by accomplishing simple things. Things you normally think are demeaning and that are so simple a child could do them. When you have successfully accomplished a few of these try something harder until you have a string of successes you can be proud of and makes you think positive. Remember, POSITIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF ARE UPLIFTING!!

Answer 5

It's a common practice for people who have low or no self esteem. This is based on your childhood and what happened or didn't happen during it. You need to see a psychiatrist- and a therapist - if you can't afford to go to one privately, you will want to see one in group sessions which will be free- all towns have them. Look up mental health in the yellow pages- and start from there or easier- call your local hospital and they can direct you to the correct facility-don't dwell on the negatives in your life- we all have many of them, you do know your worse enemy is yourself, right? If we didn't have ourselves to put us down, who would do that job now that our parents are out of the picture and it used to be their job to do this to us? .......You are a GOOD person ....sit down and right down all the GOOD things you did in your life--- and there are many.... especially the little things, like saying "hello" to the little old lady who lived in your neighborhood and was all alone--- that little hello may have been the only conversation she had with a human for days--- she may have watched for you to come out of your home so she can run out so you might say hello to her.......touching peoples lives does not have to be a dramatic event--- the most subtle are the most impressionable, and don't forget animals....they are God's creatures and love to them gives back to you 10 fold......please think about all the good you have done and you will feel better about yourself.............and please make an appointment with a clinic to be seen for therapy or see your family doc....your thoughts are altered and you need guidance.....good luck to you

Answer 6

Spend as much time as you can with positive people. I would love to say your friends, but depressed people often befriend depressed people. So if you're friends are positive people, hang out with them. If not, find more happy people to spend time with. Also, just let go. Don't worry about if something might go wrong. Think about the happy things you have at the moment. Do fun stuff.

Answer 7

You are choosing to punish yourself! The answer is as simple as change what you are telling yourself. this is not easy and it will take practice but if you want it you can do it. Remember initially you will only be able to change your self messages for a few seconds the loner and the more you practice the longer it will work for you. Just do it! You will be glad you did.

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Answer 10

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