There is a man who works for the same company I do, but we work in different buildings. Sometimes he comes into my building and tries to talk to me but it creeps me out a little because I am 29 and married and this guy knows it and he is in his 60's at least. He says things like, ""You ought to come over there and work beside me and keep me company." and " Then after he quits talking and while I am still trying to work he stands there, lingering and staring at me. He seems like a harmless old man but kind of in a creepy way. I try to go out of my way now and change my routine so that he doesn't find me because when he does he just stands there staring at me. I get really weirded out. Maybe I am reading the situation the wrong way - what is your opinion. I wish I had some guy's opinions too, as to what I might say to make this fellow quit coming over to find me.
2007-02-08 10:25:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He seems to be hitting on you. I think that you should tell him you are uncomfortable with the conversation, or tell him that you are married
2007-02-08 10:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by danicolegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you really don't like him coming over to talk to you and to leave you alone. If that doesn't work, be short with him and ask him what the hell his problem is standing aroudn staring at you. Also suggest that maybe you should call your husband in to have a chat with him. Trust me he'll leave you be.
He is DEFINITELY a wierdo and just reading about your experience creeps ME out! He's a 'dirty old man' and he needs to move on.
2007-02-08 19:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.tell your supervisor about the man and put your complaint in writing. The supervisor will take care of the problem on your behalf. The company you work for has polyicies in place to take care of situation like this.
2007-02-09 11:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by pheebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. 60 year old are you coming onto me. Because if you are, I think I will have to let my husband know exactly how sexy I am and that I have to even bat the decrepit, old men off with a stick. I don't think he will ever speak to you again, but I think it will definitely work in stopping him in his tracks...and you don't have to feel creeped out.
By the way, to your first question, is he coming onto you...Hell Yeah!!!
2007-02-08 19:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by reading this question you ask, it sounds like the "dirty old man" wants to bend you over his office desk and well...you know...play a nice hard game of checkers, maybe some yahtzee...and if you both have time,possibly finish a hard days work off with a fun game of scrabble.....nah but he prollay wants to do you, you figure this guy hasnt gotten laid since 1980 so of course hes gonna be starin you up and down, undressing you with his eyes....but its all good, hes probably harmless and just looking for the slightest gleam of hope to keep him goin....
2007-02-08 18:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by roastedass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do some women take the slightest amount of flirting to be sexual harassment or some such? Relax!
Anyway, there's no need to get melodramatic yet and tell him to leave you alone. Just make it REALLY obvious that you're trying to avoid him. He should get the hint. If he doesn't, then the melodramtic 'please leave me alone, I'm married' can be implemented.
2007-02-08 19:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to me, and my Co-worker alot on the job.
It creeps us out. Hers is a real creepy old rich guy.
Just keep mentioning your husband.
My HUSBAND likes fishing,
working on the car,
cuts the grass...
Duck him when you can, and you should let the Job
know he does this.
2007-02-08 19:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he feels creepy to you keep with that instict, and stick with it. bring into the conversation things about your hubby...and maybe (if possible, introduce them if the occassion comes up). remind him that your married...or say that u feel uncomfortable about the way he looks at you. let your boss know too if you hav ethat kind of relationship with your boss. make it be known u're not interested by not being responsive. if he come to talk to you and u're in your office...be BUSY...or pretend to be...if you ignore him enough, she *should* get the message.
2007-02-08 19:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he comes over start talking about your husband and kids (If you have any) and how much you love them, he should get the picture.
2007-02-08 18:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start keeping a log of incidences so that if it crosses the line of being inappropriate you have documentation for when you complain about harassment.
2007-02-12 17:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by thetunak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋