Is it ok to elope- and then have a family party afterwards.. We can't get married with family unless they can ALL be there.. but we really want it to be just us and our witnesses... but a family party after would be great. tacky?
2007-02-08 10:05:50 · 11 answers · asked by sblgpj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What's wrong with that?! The wedding should be about the couple and the stress of having to deal with all the family is sometimes just too much. My hubby and I eloped and then, six months later when it worked better for everyone's schedules, had a big, informal party. Everyone loved it. Much, much less money and hassle. Don't waste money on a formal wedding if you don't have it - use the money for a house or other important stuff instead. You'll be so glad you did! Good luck!
2007-02-08 10:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Gretch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a perfect idea - I'd do it if my family would let me get away with it and not throw a fit. As it is, my fiancee and i plan to get married in Orlando with our families and then honeymoon there - but I'd much prefer just to have a party when we got back! Go for it. You'll have much more fun without all the stress (and expense) that goes along with a traditional wedding. I don't know what the etiquette is on this, but if you're not having a wedding in front of everyone, I wouldn't necessarily expect gifts. You may want to write "No gifts please" on the invitations.
2007-02-08 10:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had a private ceremony... on the immediate family. We returned from our honeymoon and had a reception. Everyone seemed to enjoy it. My husband and I didn't want that stress or all that headache. We loved our formal wedding... and displayed pictures and the video which played in the background. It will totally not be tacky. IT WILL BE GREAT.
Please remember that the wedding is for you and your partner. It is about what makes the two of you happy...not everyone else.
2007-02-09 18:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what my daughter did, and I can tell you that it is far less stressful for everyone. My husband and I, the bride and groom, and four other people went to Key West, where they got married on a tour boat. She wore a long white dress with spaghetti straps. He wore a suit. The captain married them. The captain arranged for a photographer. Then the bride and groom honeymooned in the Keys. We had a reception three weeks later in the state where we were living. Our daughter and son-in-law wore their wedding clothes to the reception. They told everyone else to feel free to dress casually. It was wonderful.
2007-02-08 10:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is up to you, but remember one thing it is a very important day in your life, why wouldnt you want your family there? I have been to those after parties, and they aren't as fun, seems like there is something missing with it......it is like no-fans showing up to the Super Bowl, and then those fans being able to cheer for the victory two months after the fact?
2007-02-08 10:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people have a private wedding & a more public reception at a later time. I think it's fine.
2007-02-08 10:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by layla983 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
great idea. takes away the stress of planning a big day!
once you are back you can have a party and enjoy it!
congrats
2007-02-10 21:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends did that. We didn't have to sit through a boring wedding... because let's face it.... they are. We still got to party for free and get drunk. I say it's a-okay!
2007-02-08 10:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no it ain't tacky! It is smart!! Do what you want, it's your wedding & if people don't like it maybe they would like to pay for you "proper" wedding?
2007-02-08 10:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the best way to go. Have fun.
2007-02-08 10:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋