Why should I get a girlfriend?

Question

No, I am not gay. I am very hopeless and I have low self esteem that I don't feel like fixing. I view love as a bunch of gooshy mumbo jumbo. I mean, I used to want love, but I got so impatient because I didn't find a girl, so I gave up looking, and now since I realized I can't get love, I now hate it. I don't deserve it, because I am ugly. I would rather have respect, not love. My real love is the military and I don't really think that I want a girl to come first. I am a soldier, not a love person. I don't believe that soldiers can love. It can get in their way. I think I still have some longing for love I can't get rid of however, as I get surges of anger when I see people holding hands and kissing. It' almost like it's jealousy. I am trying to get rid of that longing, though. What another problem is that the only, ONLY reason why I would ever want a girlfriend is to be like everyone else and to try to fit in. I guess you would say the girl would technically be an object.

Answer 1

Some people have to love one thing at a time. You love the military now. Later on you may find someone for whom you would do anything. Don't be jealous of others. Your time will come when you are open to it. People may find the love of their lives in their 60s. You're never too old. I don't know how old you are but you owe it to yourself to see a counselor about your self-esteem. You deserve to be loved and need to be loved by others. The military offers lots of teamwork and friendships and rewards good work but you should be open to love and you're not. You feel as if you don't deserve to be loved so you're shutting down. Get counseling and not through the military. Find some church counselors. Go to several. They're free. Keep it to yourself. Good luck.

Answer 2

Wow! Let me go through this with ease. Okay, maybe you should possibly consider therapy. If you are at a young age, love will make more sense as you get older. As for you being 'ugly', you are not. We are all beautiful to someone and if you carry some confidence you will be sure to seal a relationship. Put yourself out there and talk to people.

Answer 3

You shouldn't get a girlfriend to be like everyone else. It sounds as if you are clinically depressed and full of bitterness. It also seems that on some level you do want a girlfriend, but you are so afraid of rejection that you have decided on an intellectual level that you do not need one. I would recommend counseling before you make any rash decisions and end up hurting someone, especially yourself.

Answer 4

I understand where ur coming for. I am going to try out for the Navy Seals here soon, and nothing can be in ur way there. But I'm not realy big on the dating the either but lower ur expection for girlfriends. There is some one for everyone. P.S. dude girlfirends r not objects!

Answer 5

Dude, I think you should consider some therapy. You have a lot of self loathing, I know because I used to be like you. You need to figure out where that comes from. I admire your dedication to our country, and your interest in being a soldier, but having a woman in your life is a wonderful thing; one of the glories of being alive. think about it.

Answer 6

Low self-esteem that you "don't feel like fixing"? great attitude man. no wonder you can't find a good reason.

Answer 7

dude, you cant get rid of love like love for your parents and if you dont have love you dont get SEX yes you dont get sex perhaps the greatest part of life and in the military yah u think your so good but some jappenese **** gets to you and kills you and you were only 25... (or some age i dunno)

Answer 8

Don't you ever feel lonely and want what all men want SEX.

Answer 9

maybe you should not give up on love yet

Answer 10

sex