My boss and I are very good friends. I started loving him. But before I could tell him he told me he is getting engaged to someone else. He has till date only confided him. I still love him. In Joke I told him that i love him. but he said he considered me only as his best friend. He is very happy with his proposed engagement and i donot want to come in the way of his happiness but i m not able to forget him. At present I am in different town but in couple of days i have to go back to my office.
My problem is how do i forget him and be happy in his happiness and donot want to lose his as his friend
2007-02-08 09:56:00 · 16 answers · asked by seno a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is difficult but not a great big problem. Do not look this through magnifying glass. A true love is two-way. When you love and he also loves you then there shall be relationship and binding. Since there is no relationship, it is easy to forget him. Do not think at first it is too difficult. Another think is "You should never fall in love with your boss." To be caring, loving, nice, gentle and friendly is necessary for the bosses to get things done by those who work for them but that does not mean that they love every one. You are mistaken at first. Think from his side and realise your mistakes then you get an extra ordinary power to forget and come into right direction. Be professional at work never be casual. If he had said that he loved you and if you don’t like him, you call it as harassment. A good boss never gives chance to those who work for him in these matters. A good manager is very careful in his relationships with employees. No problem, realise and refocus on work. Do not run away, Face the reality with courage and strength.
2007-02-16 07:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by pkeleti72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I got married almost three years ago, through church and everything. Well, 2months before I got married I met a guy at work who i was sure I had known him before. Well, I invited him to my wedding and he was surprised to know I was getting married. We became good friends after that. The day of my wedding I was sure that something was wrong, for some reason everything was going wrong. At the reception that guy that I had met at work showed up and was like super nice to me. I even thought of having gotten married to him instead of my new husband. He had a wife and has a duaghter. Ne ways we kept working together and a month after I got married my new hubby was in my bed with another girl. So guess what I ended up with my friend from work. Turns out we knew each other since we were in Kindergarten, and he told me he liked me since the first time he saw me. We are still together and love each other more than ever. the reason I tell you this is because no matter if he is engaged you need to let him know you feel before it is too late. You do not want to let him get married without knowing your true feelings and then he finds he loves you as well. If things do not go as planned then guess what it is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all.
2007-02-08 18:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Grisselle A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your peace of mind and his happiness just try to find a batter job in time and put distance. Out of site and out of mind, seeing him every day will not do any good and it will get worst.
It is up to you , jobs are not easy to come by but try hard and even harder. If you want peace of mind and future happiness for both.
Do it soon and sooner the batter.
When you are over it, and you are 25 year old and can afford to get married. Make the most of the time on hand, study, build a carrier, enjoy the new found freedom. take it as a opportunity rather the a defeat.
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2007-02-08 18:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as it may seem, it is likely that he does not consider there to be any romantic possibility between you and he. If you've only worked with him, then you've only seen one side of him.
His fiance has probably not only seen his good side, but his bad side as well. And she loves him anyway.
Having a crush on a boss is quite common and only in the rarest of circumstances does it lead to something truly meaningful.
My suggestion to you is to try to be more professional with this man. If you are truly in love with him, then you should consider finding another opportunity where you do not report directly to him.
If it's real, you'll know when you're not working side by side.
2007-02-08 18:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U will soon forget once he gets married. I know that'll be very painful n difficult. But after some months or years u will laugh at ur crazy thought. I'd say leave him alone coz he is happy with his relationship. Don't break his happines. And remember he is ur boss n u work below him. So stay in ur limits.
2007-02-08 18:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its better that you too get married and enjoy yourself. Still if you have the lust for him, it may only spoil your life and career.
It would also be suggested that you move out to some other place/company so that in future there would be no chance to get entangled.
Later on after some years of marriage, you may meet the same person some where and when his wife sees you it may be ambrassing position.
2007-02-10 02:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in love with a guy I haad no chance of being with. there was a 13 year age diffrence. but we where close friends and he confided in me through out his divorce and I felt really close to him. I told him how I felt and he told me the same, we where better friends. I still c him now and then, not to often. You just have to learn to move on. It's said often but if it is truly ment to be then you willbe together gut let time figure it out. good luck
2007-02-08 18:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your friend and not your lover. You loved him without his knowledge . He is open enough to say that you are a good friend and nothing more. Accept the fact and keep the good friendship alive. Best of luck. Think that he was not your type and move on . Do not feel depressed for some one is waiting for you in this world.Best of luck
2007-02-08 23:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to arrange for a marriage and get married soon. If possible kindly get transfer or switch over to another office. Otherwise you will become a psycho.
2007-02-13 01:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by vijayakumar n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to be someone's friend if you love them and they don't return that love. put some distance between you two, i know he is your boss, but avoid him at all times unless you are with someone else so you can start to get over him. under no circumstances do you ever again try to tell him how you feel or it will destroy your relationship. eventually you will get over him and find someone new.
2007-02-08 18:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋