my current bf hates my ex so much because of the way he treated me when we were dating. we get along as friends, and he calls me once in awhile at night when i get home from work. my bf is usually working this time of night, but last night he came home while i was talking to my ex. i hung up on my ex, so then he calls back. my bf answers the phone, but hears nothing.
i don't want to not talk to my ex, we are still friends, and have been friends for a very long time, but my ex hates him, and if he found out that i was talking to him, he would be very mad.
should i feel bad for talking to my ex once in a while, should i tell my bf that i've talked to him, or should i stop talking to him?
2007-02-08 09:23:41 · 12 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speaking to your ex is fine.. and im glad you've got over what he did to you in the past.... but thats exactly what he is.... YOUR PAST. Your new boyfriend is your future.... dont comprimise your current relationship for someone who treat you like dirt
2007-02-08 09:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Shellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that what you are doing is sneaky and disloyal. What you don't seem to get as that other people can read your intentions, no matter how you explain or justify it. The worst of your offenses, I think, is your disloyalty to your "bf", who you live with! Betraying a friendship, not to mention an exclusive relationship, lasts for a long time and your wanting to have contact with a person who "hates him" is ridiculous and unacceptable. It must give you a thrill to keep getting attention from a person with whom you've had a physical relationship, but it is selfish and rude and immature. You'll regret it if you don't wise up.
2007-02-08 17:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by justagirl33552 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current boyfriend is insecure. He needs to trust you. It will not work for long if he doesn't. But, if you hang up right away when your current boyfriend comes in the room, then there is room for suspicion. Keep in contact with your ex. He's a friend. Don't keep it a secret, but don't bring it up every chance you get. You should never drop ANY of your friends for a man, ever. Remember that in a relationship both people need to be transparent. Period. Good Luck.
2007-02-08 17:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should still talk to your ex. I'm best friends with mine. I don't think that your bf understands the relationship you and ex have. You shouldn't stop talking to him or feel bad about anything because you're friends with him. And if your bf threatens you he is not worth it and just VERY jealous. Don't take any crap from him.
2007-02-08 17:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shelb-N-Ator [[H!ATD]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop and honor your bf wishes and cut the strings.. the only reason you should be talking to any ex is if you have kids other then that let him go and let him know your done and no more phone calls or you will lose out on the bf you have now if that's what you want break it off with your new bf and get back with the old one cant play the field.. get on with life let the past stay the past...
2007-02-08 17:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, your relationship needs to be respected. You can't blame your current guy for his insecurity. If your ex is truly a friend, he will understand and accept that your boyfriend's feelings need to be honored and understood by both of you. My ex and I had a understanding that if either of us had a problem with any friends the other had, we would not deal with them. I was put in the position a couple of times when I had to tell friends of mine that my guy doesn't feel comfortable with us being so close. What can you do?
2007-02-08 17:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy, dont talk to the ex. If you dont care about the guy, talk to the ex and throw the relationship right out of the window.
2007-02-08 17:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to still talk to him but since he was ur ex its always gonna be a big deal and ul have to live with it or stop seeing him.
2007-02-08 17:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lee H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your Bf just want to protect you from your ex what he did to you if iam on you i would stop talking with your ex .
2007-02-08 17:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes your man uncomfortable then I wouldn't. ask yourself this, would you like it if he spoke to his ex?
2007-02-08 17:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋