how can i deal with dad's new attitude and his new wife?

Question

im 23 years old, my parents got a divorce 3 years ago. i decided to live with dad. i droped out of college for a whole year and a half to be with him, and support him when mom sued him with false accusations. and because of that my mother and 3 brothers dont contact me anymore.now he got married to a 19 year old girl who has got a hidden agenda i guess. she seems to be a golddigger, but its his choice and im accepting that. lately, me and dad fight alot and never agree to anything. im staying for a month at his place for the holiday and cant put up with them two. i can sense that im not very welcomed at home. i was betrayed, used humiliated and doped. i told him how i feel but he doesnt care. dont you think he should be grateful for what i did? i could've agreed to my mom's actions and never lost her, but she was mistaken. im staying alone in my room the whole day and nobody cares. my sister is my best friend but she isnt in town now. what do you advice me to do? help me please

note: my parents never tolerated each other, and after all those accusations mom made, she admitted they were all false. its hard for me to forgive her cuz she abused me thru all my childhood and this developed alot of hate toward her. me and my sister were on dads side because we knew he was right, and didnt want to be in the "bad guys" side. i know its complicated but i need help.

Answer 1

Bummer.....are you positive your mom was wrong....have you sat down and talked to her about it in detail? Keep to yourself and look forward to seeing your sister again. Your dad's new marriage shouldn't have others living so close during the first year, no matter how ridiculous their age difference. If things go wrong, they'll blame you....let it go wrong on its own....LOL! Why not cut your visit short and go home now.

Answer 2

Oh, I'm very sorry for the way your feeling right now. You should leave your dad, and go back to your mother and apologize. How did you know that your father really didn't do those accusations? He seems pretty rude to me, well in the way your saying it, what kind of father is he? He doesn't even care about your feelings. You deserve better than that. Your father is taking you for granted, doesn't he know that YOU left the mom, and trusted HIM? You were the only one that actually believed in him, didn't you? And now he acts like your nothing? The wife, wow, your 23 and she's 19. Thats pretty sad. I guess he wants a 19 year old woman because he wants a young and attractive woman, and I guess he doesn't really mind if she's using him because he's probably using her. He probably just wants to feel wanted. You should leave your 'home' and go back to your real family, which is with your mother, and be treated the way your supposed to be treated. If you do leave him, he'll probably learn that he's much better off with you, and learn his mistakes.

Answer 3

Your dad's dealing with middle age very poorly. You might want to cut your holiday short and leave as soon as possible. Perhaps he should be grateful to you but right now he's not thinking with his brain. I'm sorry you lost contact with the rest of your family. You're an adult and need to get out on your own. I hope you can mend some fences eventually but for now, your dad's too busy with his new toy.