my boyfriend asked me out about a month ago... but now he ignores me all the time. i tell him that he does, but he doesen't belive me. how can i make him pay more attention to me.
2007-02-08 09:14:02 · 24 answers · asked by Dopie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really need help, my bf is ignoring me, we have been going out 4 about a month and ever since we started dating, he totally ignores me, and he ditches me for his friends...ALL the time... help!
2007-02-09 07:09:58 · update #1
Sit down with him again and tell him you feel you are being ignored and how you feel it. If he doesn't want to try to make it better, then it is time to move on. Relationships are about communicating and being honest and trying to please each other and working things out, having fun, and doing things together. Tell him what you expect out of a relationship and let him tell you what he expects, if they don't match and he won't compromise, it is time to move on.
2007-02-08 09:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is probably the single most important part of a relationship. You've tried to express yourself and been ignored, so I'd say there are two options available to you. First, you can try again. Instead of just telling him you feel ignored, try citing specific incidents. Maybe he doesn't realize how you are interpreting some of his reactions. But try to open a channel for communication. The second option is to end the relationship. It sounds like he's hurt you, and while he may not have intended to do it, he's not helping either. He has to be willing to change, and if he isn't then the relationship just won't work.
Don't play games with him - they can backfire on you or make the situation worse. Just spell the problem out for him and let him know that he needs to pay more attention to you or things are over. That way you can make a clean break on both sides.
2007-02-09 05:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK OK OK here we go
this is what you do
when you hang out be sweet and nice and give him compliments on the things you like
OK so when you aren't hangin with him dont call him and dont text at all wait for him to call you first and then say you are busy about half the time even if you aren't
make him chase you
if you dont he will know you are always there whenever he wants you and he wont treat you well
2007-02-08 09:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know what you mean. I'm the type of person who needs a lot of attention...don't know why, I just do. First he needs to realize that he's NOT paying attention to you...otherwise he'll never fix it. If he's ignoring you maybe you could find someone better for you?
2007-02-08 09:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by coldasyou213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. after a week or 2 ask him out again and tell him if you ignore me like last time then we are through for good.
OR
obviously he isnt the right guy for you. if he ignores you he isnt the right guy
2007-02-08 09:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by wacky_cornrows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not paying attention to you now, he wont later. If he's still ignoring you in a week then you need to get rid of him
2007-02-08 09:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him pay more attention?!?
Girl, if you tell him you're feeling neglected and he doesn't jump off his a** to change then he prolly won't. Hate to say it, but some guys just don't get it no matter what.
Get someone that gets it.
2007-02-08 09:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him pay attention to you, sorry. Sounds like he only tried just to get you and now that he does, he doesn't have to work at it anymore. Tell him that your not going to live like that anymore and that you deserve someone who is going to shower you with attention and affection.
2007-02-08 09:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by prima ballerina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him more like don't say your ignoring me be like i dont like being in a relationship where we dont communicate and if he says something cheezy or starts joking about it he must not care about you(i know that hurts but its true) or you could get one of your friends to walk up to y'all and be like how come y'all never talk or something and see what he says...hope it works out!!!
2007-02-08 09:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by *KAYLA* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick this dip s h i t to the curb, you should never feel ignored in a relationship. This relatioship is not important to him....obviously
2007-02-08 09:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by ash08love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋