DON'T give up your virginity until you're older.
I know from expirience, its a bad choice. I'm 15, and my ex boyfriend dumped me sunday night. We were together for 5 months, and serious. He bought be an expensive promise ring, we talked about moving in, and our future together, and i really felt like he was the one. I made the mistake of having sex with him, and giving him my virginity. I thought he was the one i was going to be with forever! You can't blame me, he put on a good act. Sunday night, he dumped me and told me that he "stopped loving me", those feelings just "started to fade." Imagine how used i feel? You might say, "my boyfriend is different, he really is sincere." Yeah. Thats what i thought about him. Damn, i thought he was more perfect than you could ever think your boyfriend is. But the truth is..no one knows what they want forever at this age. People grow, people change, and now i see why adults always say save it until you're older, but now i wish i had listened.
2007-02-08 09:11:44 · 16 answers · asked by Lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh..AND now he's talking to another girl. Ha.
2007-02-08 09:16:59 · update #1
well girl you had to learn the hard way but at least you learned. now you can know for the future and hopefully help some girls not make the same mistakes. it's not our fault guys are so charming and deceiving. I'm 17 and fortunately I had the emotional hurt without giving any guy my virginity but I still know how awful a guy leaving can be so I empathize with you.
girls who are reading this... trust me, she is right!!! there are some decent guys out there, but they're very hard to find and you'll almost never find them in high school.
2007-02-08 09:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is that while you are a very caring and loving friend to her, you need to tread lightly here. If she already has a crush on you, she might interpret your words to mean that you return the feeling and that you are waiting for HER. I don't think there's anything wrong with telling her that you share her beliefs about waiting until marriage. Just make sure you say, "And I haven't met the woman yet that God has planned for me." I don't tell you this because I think you would lead her on, but because a 13-year-old girl can very easily lead herself on. Apparently some of the boys her own age are really tormenting her, and that is all the more reason why she probably has a crush on you. The rape threat was serious, and no girl should have to deal with that. If you are the only guy she knows who is showing her respect, a girl her age will interpret that to mean more. Your instincts are good and right. Just make sure you handle it delicately. And try to keep at least one other person involved in all your dialogs with her- your sister, if possible. That avoids the appearance of too much intimacy.
2016-05-23 22:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes.The thing is do we learn from them?Now you know that boys/men 98% of the time want one thing only & will say/do ANYTHING to get it.Not all men are like this but most are.LIVE AND LEARN YOUNG LADY.I can only pray that you used some protection & that you will use protection in the future no matter what the guy says.
2007-02-08 14:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I tell kids you age just what you said. You should be proud of yourself for realizing this. I'm sorry for what you lost but you gained an incredible amount of knowledge that will carry you far in life. I wish you good luck and remember what you just wrote.
2007-02-08 09:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Quix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup u should of listened haha ur only 15 wooooooooooooow all i gots to say is grow up first before u get serious with someone like that trust me its worth the wait hun u still got years to learn about alooooooooooooooooooooooooot hun okay
2007-02-08 09:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could say you learn from your mistakes sorry you lost something so presious to someone who don't deserve it he is such a fool to have played you like that. now from your experience you can guide younger girls than yourself on what kind of guys to look out for,don't let another guy like that take another young innoncent girl precious gift.hope you find some one you can be able to trust in the future.
2007-02-08 09:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be OK. after all you're only fifteen. when your thirty and have one divorce a kid and a new marriage then you can complain. my advice is don't have sex. have fun while your still young enough and don't have monthly bills stareing you in the face.
2007-02-08 09:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by wendy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever go back to him, but I think you could properly insult him by suggesting that you grew too old for him to like you anymore.
2007-02-08 09:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by dinotheorist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, that's what I keep telling these people. I guess these young ones are just excited and their hormones are rushing to their head. You just keep safe luv and look after yourself.
2007-02-08 09:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful in the future! I am soooo glad you learned something outta this and thanx for the story. :)
2007-02-08 09:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋