Im a 20 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Im a real good kid as far as my parent know and have never really done anything to disrespect their home till now. My parents were meant to go away for a night so i invited my BF over and we were messing around a bit. Then after that i walked out of my room naked cos "i was home alone" and i walked into my dad. He just carried on walking and ignored me for a bit. Then after wards i found out they had a fight and came home and he then called me outside and kinda asked what was goin on and told me if i was sexually active i must use protection. I said i was not having sex. I just said we were changin to go for a swim which is the truth i just left out the stuff in between and he got up and walked out and has not said a thing about it since but i can see he is either angry or diappointed. My mom says he is mad at me and im just scared he will hate my Boyfriend now and things wont ever be the same?? Please help...
2007-02-08 09:10:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 20 years old. Yes, I understand that you were under your parents roof, but you are old enough to make your own decisions. You dad is most likely made b/c he thinks of you as his little princess. I think that as time goes by he won't even remember it. Just stick to your story since it is kinda the truth. I think he's gonna be a little awkward towards your b/f but you have been w/ him for 4 yrs. Your dad will get over it don't worry. Just talk to him like you normally do and itll be fine.
2007-02-08 09:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Candi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"....And the truth will set you and your BF free". If I was you, based on my dad character, after letting some times go by, after he cool off a little bit, I would confront him at the right time and right place again and lead the conversation. Tell him how you feel about what happened. Let him know that you will always be his little girl no matter what, and with an very humble heart tell him you want to have his love and respect back because they mean a lot to you and your relationship with your BF. I would also watch out for that not happen again knowing what kind of person my dad is.
2016-03-28 22:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks that you lied to him when you said you were just going for a swim. Your parents will always love you. Parents don't like to admit that their children are adult enough to make their own decisions regarding sex. If I were you, I would give him some time. Then sit down with him and explain what is going on and how you are feeling. He may be more understanding than you are giving him credit for.
2007-02-08 09:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by August D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. He just wants to believe that his little girl is, and will be, a virgin for the rest of your life. He doesn't hate you. It will be a little weird for like 2 weeks and then be fine. He's not stupid, he know's something is up. Let him know that he has raised you well, you know what a good decision is, and that he just needs to trust you. You are his child, but no longer a child...just reassure him. And, he will respect you and your boyfriend in the long run. Good Luck.
2007-02-08 09:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably mad at you cause you are his little girl. He'll get over it. You're not that young and you weren't whoring around with anybody, just your boyfriend. Don't worry too much it could have been worse. Think about it, what if your dad walked in on you guys while you guys were doing it?
2007-02-08 09:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by stryc9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't hide and wait for things to happen. You are 20 years old-talk to your dad. Tell him you're sorry if he feels you disrespected his home by your actions and from now on-you will not use his home for that if he's uncomfortable but you are a young woman and it is natural for you and your boyfriend to have a sexual relationship.
2007-02-08 09:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are 20! You are an adult. Your dad is probably just embarrassed more than anything- he saw you naked and knew you were with your man. I'm sure that would upset any dad.
The fact that he told you to use protection shows that he is not MAD but wanting you to be smart and careful...otherwise he would've probably thrown your boyfriend out and smacked you up.
ps- move out.
2007-02-08 09:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
honey your 20 you should be able to have sex with your BF with out hiding it from your dad and next time when you guys want to do that do it at his place not in your mam and dad house or just close the door and don't tell me that you guys are together for 4 years and you both didn't make love i just can't buy that.
2007-02-08 09:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell them that you were cfchanging it was the truth.. im sure they know you probably have sex since you have been together for so long.. im 19.. i got the luxury of my mom coming home for an early unexpected lunch adn jumping going ARE YOU DOING THE NASTY!!! dear lord. it was so embarassing.. but she wasnt mad at either of us she said :just make sure me or your borther arent home and use protection!" then she invited us out to have lunch with her.. talk about akward!!!!!
they wont hate you. tings will get better between you guys. good luck
2007-02-08 09:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a question...Who walked out your boyfriend or your dad? And who got in a fight your parents and your boyfriend or you parents got in a fight? And if you dad left and you mom is blaming you that is just plain rude. And if your boyfriend walked out and your mom is blaming you Your boyfriend is stupid.
2007-02-08 09:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋