i am in early thirties and i think its time i get my own family,i dont think love is gonna be coming my way so i wanna settle with a prearranged choice maybe or a dating service or matrimonal one ,any mature opinions welcome???ps;seeking life partner and kids and nucleus family hopefully
2007-02-08 09:03:52 · 16 answers · asked by reifguy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter the age only, but the maturity and the responsiblity to care for your wife and children and your parents when they need you, it is very expensive and time consuming.
being sick, pregnant, hungry , thrusty, bored, and need to be like other young girls, socialising, all that she wants, she wants romantic time with you etc..
Now do you have the readiness??
peronality and morals and beliefs, and education, and work, and financial situation, all that need to be discussed before marriage.
Don't rush, know the girl first, let your parents also have an opnion and a say, because they gave birth to you, they have the right to say at least yes or no for the girl you wish to marry.
I would say marriage is a destiney, it will happen any way whether arranged or date, love.
you only will love the person when you see the good things in her and she sees th egood things in you, and you control your anger and she control her anger too. Never hurt the woman feelings or body, never play mind games with her. marry her for who and what she is and mean to you, know her closely but without physical contact, after marriage you will have plenty of this.
both of your: feelings, toughts and spiritual beliefs and cultural background, beliefs and traditions, all should be compromised and discussed ahead, consult your family members about your culture and she has to do the same thing about her culture, what are your expectations
2007-02-08 09:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Summer O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Starting a family with just anybody doesn't sound like a very strong foundation.If you really want a "family" then I sure hope you want to keep it too.Its hard enough for a couple to stay married even if they started by loving each other.
Don't give up on finding someone you can love and be happy to spend the rest of your life with...
enjoy your life now as a single, "uncommitted" person
2007-02-08 17:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by psalm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a family, a real one, trying to hook up with some random chick isn't gonna make that happen. Just wait. As long as your future wife is younger, then it doesn't matter how old you are. Just make sure you find the right person. Although a dating service may help you find a close to right wifey.
2007-02-08 17:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait...it will come in its own time. You are still young - I was older than you when I married and had children, even though I never thought it would happen to me. Sounds like you are a good catch and it's only a matter of time until someone snags you!
Be careful of those who are on online dating sites. I know a bunch of folks (including my sister) who are on them and are not honest about who they are. There are some that are more cautious, like eharmony that may work better for you since they take into account your personality, etc....
2007-02-08 17:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude!!!
You should never settle for the person that you want to be with, start a family with especially. Give it some time, you never know who you're gonna meet tomorrow. Until then, just have fun and live your life.
2007-02-08 17:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!
1st of all, dont panic- itz never too late...i know a guy who got married at 64, and has a kid! a bit of a weird situation, but they are such a great family!
2- i actually know a few guys in this kind of situation; i know a guy who wasnt like you- he sort of gave up hope and never got married. DONT DO THIS! never give up!
i know another guy who went on a dating site, a serious one- they arent all a waste of time, they got married! they are soo great together.
3- dont rush! first things first. get a good job if you havent already got one, earning enough to support a family. get married. then have kids.
good luck! :)
2007-02-08 17:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Morya tal i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and there is no need to be desperate about this situation.
Its a lovely thing to have a family but only when its with the right person.
You cannot plan things like that, let it come naturally.
2007-02-08 17:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out those mail order brides from 3rd world countries, like the philipines. those flips are young, hot, know how to treat a man, and they are also smart and hardworking and many are highly educated and would love an american man. Just make sure you keep her away from the fat lazy goldingging american born women so they dont ruin a good thing.
2007-02-08 17:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you date? Have any type of social life? If you want to find a nice, repectable girl start attending church. Most have a singles class, where you can get to know someone then perhaps date and marry. Don't give up and please don't settle for 'an arrangement'!!
2007-02-08 17:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude no worries. People can start their own families after 40 even. You are not a chick so don't pressure yourself to get a family.
2007-02-08 17:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by stryc9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋