Hi. i'm at my wits end here. so i need some advice. okay, my bf i'll call him mike, and i got into a huge fight last night. and today at school he said he was looking forward to our v-day date he is planning. now he said very cruel things to me, and i know he was only saying them out of anger. but he really did hurt me, whether he really meant to or not. so my question is...is he apologizing. or is he just assuming that i forgave him? help me out..i am SO confused!
2007-02-08 09:03:02 · 8 answers · asked by italiana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, you need to have a talk with him. guys like to brush things under the rug and make it sounds like it never happened. you need to tell him how hurt you feel. verbal abuse is never a good thing for a healthy relationship eventhough it came out from anger. you want to let him know that. clear the air first before this v-date. you don't want him to take you for granted.
2007-02-08 09:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he was talking to YOU about this Valentine Date that he 'may be' trying to 'apologize' without actually 'saying he's sorry' ... and that could be because he's really embarrassed by what he said and is 'afraid' to say anything for fear you'll just get into another fight ... or it could be that he's actually 'using you' and that you will NEVER get an apology from him on anything. Tell him that you are 'slightly confused' and that you would like a 'simple apology' (I'm sorry we fought.) so that things are 'more clear' in your head.
2007-02-08 17:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is jus tryin to apologize for what he said to you but being a man he just don't want to come out plain and say i am sorry so the only way to really know if he has apologize or not tell him the only way the date would still be on is if he apologize to you for what he said because it realy hurted you.
2007-02-08 17:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that might not seem like nothing to but that is a sign of verbal abuse and he didnt apologize..........hmmmmmmmmm you need to talk to him about it because he didnt say anything about doesnt mean that it's ok cause ur the one who is still in pain talk to him before it get worst. Next he will say somethi worst and there will be a next time
2007-02-08 17:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he really meant what he said. if he says no then ask him why he said it. make it clear that your not just gonna jump back in to his arms after what he said. if he says yes, then ask him why. either way, you should talk to him about what happened and see what you can both do to make sure that it doesn't happen again. no relationship is with out its problems. try to sort them out. if neither one of you refuses to give up your position, then either work your way around it, or maybe you are not right for each other.
2007-02-08 17:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by blue print 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him your still hurt...
Don't assume he knows and get all sassy because he didn't read your mind...
He probably does need to apollogize again but let him know because he might be in the dark as to how you really feel...
thats cool you knew he just said what he said out of frustration...your doing your part..
good luck.
2007-02-08 17:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by roy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here some ideas!!
Why are you taking yourself through so many ups and downs!! If he didn't say sorry and you want to here it than you need to tell him!! If he can't compromise to tell you than you need to let it go!! Life is to short to make something that don't work!!
2007-02-08 17:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he assumes you forgave him. drop him before v day and you will see what he is all about.
2007-02-08 17:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by wendy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋