Rude date...?

Question

Last week I went out with this guy, he's really nice, has a great job and his own house and the most awesome Lexus ever,
he came over to pick me up and suggested that since he had left his cell phone behind and I should leave mine as well, I told him
that a friend of mine was feeling kinda depressed and it would be better if I brought it with me just in case. We were at dinner and she called me a whole bunch of times and I took them because she has been my friend for a long time, and then after only like the fifth call, he got up and left, he ditched me, was he crazy or something, he did paid for his meal, but I had to pay for mine and I didnt have any cash and plus I had to call my friend to come pick me up, whats wrong with this guy?

Ive called him like three times since, but he never replies, I really wanna see him again, why cant he understand that my friend needed me? We had just started our date too, and now he wont call back or answer emails.

What can I do to win him again?

Answer 1

Hindsight is always better than foresight. I can understand your dilemma, wanting to be available for your friend, while satisfying your desire to go on your date.
His request for you to leave your phone at home is no doubt a result of prior experience.
It is common for individuals to have a back up plan while on a first date, wherein they have a friend call and check in on the progress of the date. If all is well the date progresses, if not it allows the individual to have an opportunity to make some excuse and bow out of the date.
Perhaps that was not your intent, but with the repeated calls it was certainly taking away from the ambiance of the date. Remember it was his date too, not just yours, and obviously he felt that your reluctance to ignore the calls was rude and obtrusive to him.
Perhaps you should have asked your friend to respect your needs at that moment, if you felt your friend truly needed your shoulder, the proper thing to do would have been to apologize to your date, explain to him that your friend was in a bad emotional state and you really needed to be there for them, AND THEN offered to take him out another time your treat.

Answer 2

OMG. Are you serious?? Ok, first off you say in your description of him "has the most awesome Lexus ever"...is that how dates are rated worthy or not? And while I don't agree he should have asked you to not bring you cell phone, you answered it FIVE TIMES?! OMG. I would have left you after the third time you answered it. That is SOOO incredibly rude. If you were that worried about your friend, you should have gone out with her and postponed you date with Lexus boy for another night.

Answer 3

He was spending his time on you... and hoped you would give him some attention... he got angry and left...

You would have been better off just canceling the date until you were able to show him the attention he wanted...

On the other hand... perhaps this shows you the kind of person he is and perhaps you are better off.

I probably would have paid for the dinner and just takin you home... or after the 3rd call asked you if you just wanted to call it a night because your friend needs you...

I think he was showing his selfish nature...

Answer 4

You should have left the cell at home. You were on a date with this guy, not your friend. She could have left a message because I know you have voicemail on your cell, and caller id too!! I hope that the guy finds a more respectful lady to take out.

Answer 5

lame date lame friend and you were lame for taking all the calls.You should of been able to cut the 5 calls to two. Once before your date and once after. all your friend needed was moral support and 2 calls would of sufficed. dont try to make amends with this guy, just think of it as a learning experience for next time.

Answer 6

There is nothing you can do to win him back! You shouldn't wan't him back , if he can't accept that your friend is important to you then you don't need him in your life. It is obvious he will wan't to be the center of your attention and wan't noone else to come between you (meaning) friends/family anyone! He couldn't have been that special!You did just start your date and he was that rude imagine if you had of made it into 5 hours how it would've been! Oh boy!

Answer 7

Yes your friend needed you but although you should not have left your cell at home, after the first call I would have put the phone on vibrate. I don't blame him for not calling you back. I would not either.

Answer 8

sorry but telling u to leave ur cell home is really lame..
Taking calls during ur FIRST date is the dumbest thing u can do..even though ur friend is depressed i know u care about her but this night was meant for u..u could have talked to her later, im sure she would of understood...it shows u barely paid attention to him and he got fed up...nothing u can do about that...next u have a date place ur cell on silent and just worry about that night and nothing else..

Answer 9

oh wow. the thing is on dates its kind of rude to pick up your phone constantly you know? its true that your friend needed you but your friend also had to understand that you were occupied and she didnt have to call all those times unless she really really really needed to. i think that by him asking you if you can leave your phone at home was a sign that he wanted special time with you with no interruptions. you know focus on you...he might have been frustrated....give him time to get over it. he needs to get real with himself..your friend needed you so he also needs to understand that..

Answer 10

You shouldn't have called him again... ever. You prolly shouldn't have taken ALL of those calls, but any guy that would leave you somewhere - stranded - is definitely not someone that you should be trying to win back. If anything he should be trying to get you back.