ok, so me and this girl were kinda seeing each other, we went out a few times, was goin pretty well but then out of nowhere she said that she thought being friends was the best option. After that i stopped talkin to her, but would always catch her looking at me in the pub and at college. When I finally decided to try it with someone else, she came over and said "he's taken".
We kept talkin on msn, a little bit, but recently we have been talking alot. She keeps telling me stuff like, "my parents are worried that i never bring boys home" and stuff like that and she keeps telling me she's having men trouble, even though i know she isnt seeing anyone.
Then the other day she kept hinting at me to meet up with her and when i offered for her to meet up with me she started to text me all the time, just like when we first went out.
Do these sound like good signals?
How can i be sure of what she wants? without making it obvious that i want to be with her again?
2007-02-08 08:11:27 · 19 answers · asked by jon t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh dear. This poor girl doesn't have a clue what she wants and is even hinting that she plays for the other team so to speak. I would be cautious but if you really like her, be persistent and help her sort her head out.
2007-02-08 08:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jon T
Sometimes you have got to step back to see where you are going, & this is one of them times for BOTH of you to do just that!
I think you should stay cool
She already knows that you want to be with her, but she has obviously got other issues to deal with by the sound of it, like she is trying to please her parents for whatever reason she probably needs a bit of space to try & work out what it is that she wants
so let her step back too.. she will come around when she is good & ready
I hope things work out for you the way you want them to, remember all relationships take time & effort & understanding the others needs to grow stronger
goodluck!
2007-02-16 11:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waste time on this girl at you peril!
It does seem that she is more interested in pleasing her parents rather than you or even herself...
She does seem to have three people having equal conversations and decision making in her mind - you will NOT get a look in on this one.
Should you persist... ask her straight out and tell her you feel that you have been messed around - it might give her cause to think about her actions but I doubt that will be the case... good luck anyway.
2007-02-15 14:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that she felt things were moving too fast when you were going out and got cold feet. She has obviously missed you and is making it clear that she would like to resume the relationship. The next step is up to you. You don't have to jump in with both feet, make it casual, meet for coffee/drink and a chat, see where it goes.
2007-02-14 18:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by ELIZABETH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me she is playing games, don`t think that she wants you but she is one of these people that doesn't want anyone else to have you. what make`s her so special
find someone else and be happy don`t think that she is worth the time and trouble.
2007-02-14 12:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by shellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her whats going on.....honesty really is the best policy,
if she continues to game play then turn the tables and tell her your not sure your interested anymore
2007-02-16 10:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by sylvie c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She clearly is an emotional f***wit, stay clear of her or she will screw your head in!
Don't even try to understand women like this is the best advice I can offer!
2007-02-16 03:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blank her. She is acting like a little p r i ck teaser. When she discovers that you are not interested any more, she will throw herself at you.
2007-02-08 17:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this will never be a straight forward relationship save yourself a lot of headaches and don't dance to her tune she is playing with you best of luck
2007-02-14 03:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by lucy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a nutter to me i would give her a kick in the front
2007-02-08 16:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by jamie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋