Okay, I have been dating Paul for 10 months, I absolutely love him to death, and would do anything for him. There is one problem tho, I am 18 and he is 22, and it constantly feels like he is lecturing me, like I am young and naive, and don't know anything. For example, he is constantly telling me how to drive (i.e. when to turn, when to look for traffic, when I need to start beraking) the funny thing is that my driving record is MUCH better than his. It seems like he feels he has to do this because he is older (only 4 years but still). I have told him before how frustrating I find it, yet he still does it, what should I do? I love him and don't want to leave him I just want to fix our problem, and just "talking" didn't fix it.
2007-02-08 08:05:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My only advice is that it may not be that he is older it may just be that he is male. All of my girlfriends seem to be in agreement on this, he will never think you can drive. They all seem to think they can drive much better.
My solution, tell him to shut up, or let him drive. I picked let him drive and I get time to read a magazine and play with the radio.
Also, for future reference, when he is driving, it is likely he will never stop and ask directions if he is lost.
Accept it and move on with your relationship, this isn't really one of the biggies worth fighting about.
2007-02-08 08:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by mq1229 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does this to you, you should say just casually, "Haha, that's okay, I think I can do it on my own" or "Don't worry, I'm pretty sure I know how to do this." Just whenever the situation comes up, remind him in those ways that you know what you're doing. If he keeps acting this way, then you'll have to tell him straight. Just say that you feel like he's always lecturing you as if you're completely incompetent and it doesn't make you feel good - he's 22, he should be mature and understand that. If not, then he shouldn't be lecturing you - because you're way more mature than he is!
2007-02-08 08:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should improve your driving. i know my girl can't drive for nothing. the way she drives her car is unnerving. her brake technique is horrible, she brakes lightly in the begining and Heavyly hard in the end not only that her brake system is inadaquite for even her driving style, she doesnt take a proper line as she turns an apex. she really just points the car and presses the gas pedal. not only that she get lost all the time. so when im with her, i have to give her direction and tell her to look where she's driving and avoid things like the potholes. i like to keep her in check because i she isn't what i consider a good driver.
maybe your boyfriend is like me and sees this in you.
oh yeah also btw im 22. she's 20. im often driving in Scca stock car class races for shits and giggles. im not trying to be condensending but i honestly care for my own safety.
but if it really annoys you and you want to avoid the crap he gives you. go to Race school and graduate and shove it in his face and tell him your a better driver. because you have the school to prove it.
2007-02-08 08:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by one eye monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know straight out not in a sweet girl way but a woman way. Tell him you're a pissing me off stop it I am a woman not a child! You can say I appreciate your help, but enough is enough. Men tend to be the ones who take care of women and sometimes they just need to be put in their place. Tactful but yet firm is always good. Good Luck
2007-02-08 08:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They him how you feel. I didn't think that a relationship like that could be that hard. I'm talking to a guy that is four years older than me, but he does not act like your boyfriend. Think first if you really love him, care for him, if you do then try to make things work. If not... then just let him fly. Good luck!!
2007-02-08 08:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has some ego issue if he feels the need to lecture you. He wants to feel like he's in control it sounds like. Sit him down and tell him he needs to stop treating you like you're 16 and that you are his girlfriend, not his daughter or something.
2007-02-08 08:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u know how to do all these things and ask him to please stop lecturing u on how to do things even though he is 4 years older that doesn't mean anything. u 2 r in a relationship not a father daughter situation.
2007-02-08 08:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if he loves you, he feels like he has to protect you that way you don't get hurt or that nothing will happen to you. It seems like he just wants to protect you.
2007-02-08 08:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by squeeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u better ask him y he continues to do it even tho u asked him not to. n tell him to stop again n explain how annoyed it makes u. see his reaction to that n go from there
2007-02-08 08:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by kkong25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yell at him pretty badly one time...he'll get the picture and back off
2007-02-08 08:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by aerochik9675 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋