my father thinks i should wait till he gets back from iraq..but i really want to get married before!and i really want my dads approval also!but he doesnt understand im in love,and happy as eva!
2007-02-08 07:57:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you're in love now then you should still be in love in a year when he gets back and that way when you do get married you will have your whole together ahead of you. Your father DOES understand you're in love; he just wants to make sure you don't make a mistake and rush into something that you will regret in the future.
2007-02-08 08:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Michael D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your fiance, your love will last until he returns home. Why the rush to get married if he's not even there? It sounds as though you're in love with the idea of the wedding. What about your fiance? What does he want to do? And will the military oblige you and give him time to come home and get married? The military has a nasty habit of changing schedules on people and recalling them or sending them out on active duty with very short notice so you won't really be able to plan anything while he's active, will you? What do you gain by saying "I do" and then he's off to Iraq before you even have time for a honeymoon? Then you're sitting there married but single, for all intents and purposes. If your love is real, it'll still be there when he gets home so you can have the fun of planning the wedding together.
2007-02-08 08:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I got engaged knowing he was leaving for basic training 3 months later and we had no clue what would happen after that. Then the first chance we got, we had a quick courthouse wedding. Our families didn't approve, but we've now been married for almost a year and I know 100% that I would have regretted doing anything differently. My point, follow your heart. If you are willing to marry and then be apart while he's in Iraq, then go ahead. If you love him, then when you get married means nothing. And what other people think means nothing either.
2007-02-08 08:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first what is your age and the age of this solider? if you need dads approval it sounds like your not old enough to get married if its just an old fashion thing then you need to let your dad know your true feeling and the have your solider talk to your dad so your dad can have a feel for him. as for the Iraq think take it from me i hope you know what your getting into marring a military man is not easy he will be gone alot and you have to be alone alot that means no cheating and being very supportive and playing the waiting game all the time.. its not easy and not for the women who want their man home all the time.. they even come back with issues and you need to ask your self if you can handle all this.. and you have to think what if something happens to him like loss of a hand or arm leg can you handle that? think before you leap and listen to your dad he may be trying to protect you and hurt you and he may need to hear that you know what your doing and what it means to be an army wife. and tell him these answers to my Q's as a army wife i have to deal with young wife's all the time and i also have to deal with the men of my husbands unit coming to me asking me why did she leave me didn't she know.. think long and hard and ask Q's and remember when you marry him you'll be moving around alot as well that means away from family and friends you know and love to be with the man you love.. good look and please don't jump with out knowing what your getting into these men deal with alot and they don't need to be left behind when they are fighting this war....
2007-02-08 08:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, it will be very difficult for you as a civilian to fly to Iraq to marry the guy. Wait until he returns, you might have a changeof feelings between now and then. There is many a gal that is glad she never married the father and gave her baby up to adoption.
2007-02-08 08:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are Dad's reasons? Is he afraid you will be disappointed in not having a big wedding that you've always wanted, trying to squeeze it in before your fiance/husband leaves?
Is he hoping the separation will split you?
Does he realize that if anything happens to this fellow, whether he is your fiance or hubby, that you will be devasted, so if he's trying to spare you pain, he can't?
You need to have a serious talk with both Dad & fiance. Make your decision, then.
2007-02-08 08:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get "remarried" before he joins he will need to get a waiver to join, which means he will have 5 dependents and will most likely not be allowed in. I say wait, let him do his basic and AIT, then get married cause then there is nothing that the Army can do. He will be in the Army and you both will be married.
2016-05-23 22:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that's a tough one.
How old are you??
My son just got married and he is going back to Iraq in Oct for a yr. I think it was the best decision for them. She is now able to get settled in and get all paperwork and such done before he leaves....but they were also engaged for six months.
I bet your Dad just wants what is best for you...talk to him and let him see your point of view. In the end he will support whatever decision you make.
2007-02-08 08:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not wait till he gets back? You're going to be with him for the rest of your life... what difference does waiting a few months make?
2007-02-08 08:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is back from Iraq and then wait some more to make sure.
2007-02-08 08:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by fatsausage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋