can i get some advice from some people that have a relationship with God?

Question

i hate who i am, i hate that i feel as though i am going nowhere, i hate the fact that i dont know what i am doing and that every thing i do is in vain. there are these three beautiful people that i love with my whole heart and i hate that i can never measure up to them. when you see them you see the Lord and that is what i want... but for some reason i cant obtain that. i hate feeling like i cant grow any closer to the Lord... and that i keep hindering myself. i hate wrestling with myself over what i should and should not be doing. i hate free will. i really wish that i could just run away from everyone that knows me and just start over with just me and the Lord. what should i do?

Answer 1

I am going to encourage here, if I can. All of us who are true believers in God go through dry times, remember King David? God does not hate who you are, There is nothing you can do to make Him love you more or less. Do not compare yourself to others, that will only make you miserable, because there will always be someone who seems stronger in the Lord than you are. Also remember that what you do, is not as important to God as who you are, and that is not even as important as who you belong to. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, you belong to the One who created and loves you. He brought you into a close relationship only because of Christ. He desires for you that closeness. Take time alone with God, through the Word and prayer. You can start over with Him. Tell God your desire is to follow Him, and take baby steps. He loves you, and He knows you better than you even know yourself. Do not get discouraged.

Answer 2

There was a cartoon strip...Pogo, and a famous line is "we have found the enemy, and it is us!" Please, learn to see what God put into YOU, not in comparison to them, just what is in you. You sound like a caring person, and that is one of the greatest things. A lot of people run around with God on their lips, trying to make you believe if you don't match their "brand" of God, then you are not as good as them. That my dear, is the unfortunate effect of religious devotion, everyone fights over who's more godly. The answer is no one...
You must keep in mind there are really only 3 rules in any faith, even worshiping Satan...Love your God, Love Each Other, AND the one you need to keep at heart LOVE YOURSELF! If you do those 3 things, ALL 3, you CAN'T steal, lie, hate, abuse or otherwise sin. Think about that, it's the real truth. I am NOT a zealot, but I'm deeply spiritual, and I go to no man's church, no man goes to mine...but we share in the Lord's blessings because they are there for us all.
Love yourself, see YOUR value, put away the doubt so you will have the time and energy to let the Lord work in you. AND HE WILL, if you just watch, listen, and love. See the small things, for they are really from God, there are no Great Works for us, just a billion little ones every single day. Don't take their value so lightly, or the real beauty of God will stay hidden.
Please, if you believe nothing else of what I say, remember the 3 real laws, and keep your eyes open for the little things that make our daily lives richer...tiny steps at a time.

Answer 3

First of all, you can't accept that God loves you until you choose to love yourself in a balanced way. (Not conceit or self-centeredness, but as God loves you.) Second of all, you are not SUPPOSED to "measure up" to anybody - God created you as a unique individual. You have to follow God's will for YOUR life - not His will for anybody else's. We all do not have the same call on our lives, so stop comparing yourself to other Christians. You CAN grow closer to the Lord, but you can't do it through works. You have to develop a relationship with Him by spending time with Him every day.

May I suggest that you try listening to Joyce Meyer? I know where you are - I've been there. But after listening to several of her teachings, I was able to realize that everyone has a different level of spiritual maturity and that's ok. Her teachings are done on a level that most people can relate to, and they might help you to understand WHO you are in Christ, and that God sees you as perfect IN CHRIST because of the blood of Christ that was shed for you - if you have accepted Christ as your Savior. Also, Chuck Swindoll is a wonderful teacher. Much love & prayers to you.

Answer 4

Let me start with been there... here's how I dealt with it...

I started by reading scriptures about how God felt about me...
It will benefit you the most to get a concordance and look up scriptures for yourself based on the things you are feeling.. I like the NIV bible (New International Version) myself.. (I'm not assuming you don't read the bible or have one, these are just in case you don't tips...)
Then when you have these negative thoughts you recall the verses about how much God loves you for who YOU ARE... remember God made us all unique, we are all His children and he doesn't base His love for you based on what you can or can't do.. That is unconditional love... nothing you can do can make him stop loving you...

I soon discovered that I had so many more talents than I thought... I am an encourager, so I started carrying little blank note cards and writing little notes to others about things I admired about them or made me think about something.. so many times people would come back to me and say... You have no idea how much that little note meant to me.. I was feeling so low, or I needed that note so bad, I've been so depressed.. etc etc.

When you start to see kindness, encouragement and other small acts as gifts you have and use them to lift other people up.. it will change your life... because what really happens is, you are lifted yourself..

YOU ARE SPECIAL

YOU DO MEASURE UP

YOU CAN...YOU REALLY CAN... GET CLOSER TO GOD

So today if all you do is tell yourself you aren't going to believe any more of Satans lies, and tell God you want to have a relationship with him... He WILL help you...

Pray with true FAITH... God CAN answer any prayer... nothing is insignificant to God!

Be grateful:... In your prayers, thank God for what you have, start with thanking him for 3 things each time you pray... It's eye opening !

True Facts:
Scripture is God's word speaking to you, your reading it keeps it in your head and your heart...
Satan is a liar, and he DOES NOT want you close to God..



Who are YOU going to listen to today???

P.S, Those three special people you mentioned... call each of them and ask them how they feel about you... I bet you would be blown away with how much they think of you...

God Bless...I'll pray for you to reach out and draw closer to God...

Answer 5

You won’t be able to achieve it until you stop beating yourself up. Before we can get anywhere in our relationship with God we must –
Ask God for forgiveness
For others Everybody!
Forgive OURSELVES
When you carry any kind of unforgiveness in your heart, you will find it impossible to move forward with your relationship with God. It will be as though a wall is between you and God.
Let it go! All of the bad feelings you have for yourself and for anybody else. Just let it go! Trust me, God loves you exactly as you are and he wants you to stop beating yourself up. Do this and you will be amazed at the change in your life.

Answer 6

Get the book the course in miracles.

Its only purpose is to show you how to have a close personal relationship with God.

It actually works.

Also you really need to stop being so hard on yourself. Being hypercritical toward your self is a learned trait and you are a lot better off if you can put this judgmental nonsense behind you.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 7

I read a story by Richard Wurmbrand where he is describing Jesus with Moses & Elijah. He noted that when the discipes looked up they saw (only Jesus) and how it struck him that is what we needed to do when we look at other Christians. So I began to pray that I would see the light of Jesus in other Christians and slowly over about a month it happened. I believe the key to getting what we want is to want what God wants and pray in His will. I have to believe that what He wants for me is better than what I could come up with on my own.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to say this but this is what I'm basically see what your saying: "I don't like making my own choices in life, I think its too hard, I see people who are happy who are religious, so that must be what i must be like to be happy." My advice, become your own person, develop your individuality, learn something new, become creative; art and music are good things to take up, study a subject that you know nothing about; history or science. There is an entire world of knowledge awaiting you out there don't turn your back upon it.

Answer 9

You could be ready for God to use you.

When Job repented of justifying himself, he said, "I abhor myself..." Isaiah said, "Woe is me! For I am lost: for I am a man of unclean lips..." Daniel said, "there remained no strength in me: for my comeliness was turned in me into corruption..."

When you really start to grieve over how you have spent your life--when you recognize that your struggles have been small and petty, your prayers self-centered--when you begin to wonder what a genuine and open relationship with your Creator and Redeemer must be like and how you can get there--the dissatisfaction you feel, that's Him calling you to His heart, His purposes.

Don't envy someone else's relationship with God--you don't KNOW what it's really like. And forget about "starting over with God" somewhere where no one knows you. Let others know that your spiritual life hasn't been perfect and you're asking God to help you start over. It would be better if we all admitted we're not perfect. Your friends might wish THEY could do that.

Read Philippians 4. Never be content with what you ARE--but always be content with what you HAVE.

Answer 10

The first thing you would have to do is change your attitude.

All those things you listed are merely a state of mind. So change your state of mind and the world will be a much brighter place.

With or without God.