Sorry folks that it's not an affair or espionage...but he saw my answer to Anthea Turner book Q and said he will tell his Dad (my hubbie by coincidence) that I said I am married to a slob. It's not like I don't tell Dad that fact daily ( or twice, thrice. lots!) but should I stop him and how? Gag order? Gagging? Threats? Early to bed? Or the failsafe ££££s? Urgent assistance required please!!
2007-02-08 07:38:47 · 18 answers · asked by Serendipity 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks for all the so-helpful answers - may go with shovelhead jack's but am going to sleep on it.
2007-02-08 10:31:25 · update #1
Maybe not the right direction for you to go in but remember. Three can keep a secret if two are dead !
Always be honest then you'll have no secrets to hide.
2007-02-08 07:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Serious Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi just tell him that his dad alerady knows you call him it. i think if he thinks you are not bother by him threatening to tell him he wont. But if your like dont you dare tell your father and you keep saying you wont get this you wont get that he will tell him jsut for fun. Just play along and say that you dont want him to upset his dad by your sonementioning the word slob in front of him.
Failing that you could just tel your husband that if you son mentions anything about you calling him a slob to ignore him because you where just answering a question and you had to say what names you call your husband. or something lie that and hopefully he will take it on the funny side. He should if you call him it all the time. He will just say what a suprise. But why are you so worried.
2007-02-08 17:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about it. Little kids change their minds so quickly that he will probably forget all about. Even if he does say something, your husband will probably think it is cute or funny.
When my sons were little, often I would say something like OK and then change the subject. They would forget about it that way. Sometimes a no answer just builds up resistance but you have to be the judge of that since you know your family bettter than anyone else.
2007-02-09 17:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to his father first and tell him the truth try to make it sound funny, then tell him what a brat the boy is and that you two need to stick together on this or that boy will run you from now on. Put a stop to it now. You should be honest with your husband, a slob is not that bad a thing.
2007-02-08 16:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be the bigger person here and show your son what kind of relationship you have with your husband, by talking to your husband before your child has the chance to tell. After you should have a talk with your son about minding his own business, and how it is morally wrong to threaten anyone in order to gain something. Remember communication is key to any successful relationship, and good parenting skills make for moral law abiding successful adults.
2007-02-08 16:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by acalirobin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your hubbie yourself, in a loving way, that you said this. That would take the wind out of your son's sails. Then I think he needs a mild punishment for trying to blackmail you. Really - I do. Preferably from both of you - your husband needs to remember that if your son can blackmail his mum, he can blackmail his dad too. It would be useful I think if your husband were to tell your son that this is not a good quality to have and that he would be disappointed for his son to turn out like that.
2007-02-08 16:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his bluff and tell him to go ahead. His dad cannot blame you for repeating what you tell him daily. However, I am sure there has been some incident in your son's life he doesn't want his dad to know? So tic for tat he tells on you - you tell on him. If there's not tell him you have a long memory and one day he will do or say something he doesn't wish repeated and not to even think about asking you not to tell.
2007-02-08 17:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is time that hubby got to know how you feel. Better an argument tonight than a divorce in the near future. Call Junior's bluff.
2007-02-08 16:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat his ***. Don't let a child hold power like that over you or he will use that against you for the rest of his days wtih you. You can make that little turkey's life far more miserable than he can make yours and I bet you can win.
2007-02-08 15:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let him bribe you and he will do it again and again.
If you say you tell his dad hes a slob daily anyway, what you got to worry about.
2007-02-08 16:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋