I've been dating this girl for over three years - I don't have a yahoo account so my female cousin let me to use hers. Anyway, my girlfriend is a very gorgeous girl, and lots of men are giving her attention. One of my female friends who goes to the same school with her has told me that my girlfriend almost get free lunch everyday because guys are always insisting to pay for her lunch. And for myself, Mr. Not-so-good-looking, I sometimes feel as I'm not at the same level as my girlfriend, and I often questioned her for the reasons that she'd stay with me for so long. Recently she has been very busy with school and we haven't had the time to see each other for approximately five weeks. She stopped calling me as often and she now refused to kiss me in the public. I'm afraid that she might be seeing somebody else right now. So for the people who are reading my question, do you think that physical attraction plays a big role in a serious relationship? and why?
2007-02-08 07:38:06 · 10 answers · asked by Simplicity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She told me that she's in love my my personality, but never has she mentioned about being "physically attracted to me". sigh.
2007-02-08 07:48:37 · update #1
Although physical attraction is important. It's NOT the most important part of a relationship.
Has she told you she finds you attractive? If so, why does she not want to kiss you in public. Sounds to me like she may be embarassed by what "other people" think of you. You don't want to be with someone like that.
If she truly loves and cares about you, she would think you were "beautiful", no matter what anyone else thought, even you.
2007-02-08 07:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, if someone truly loved another person, physical attraction plays least the bit of a part in the relationship. To some people physical attraction can be everything, but those are the materialistic selfish kinds of people. Secondly, to me you sound insecure, don't be. If you show your girlfriend how confident you are she will probably like you more, if you always go running to her asking why she is with you, sooner or later she's gonna think why am i with someone so insecure. Do you know that someones confidence can play a major role in how attractive someone can look? And lastly if she is not paying attention to you because she doesn't have time, then give her space, but if she's completely ignoring you just because then i would suggest moving on to someone who has enough respect for you to give you some attention. To summarize everything don't let her think that she is better than you because she's not. Build some confidence! Go get them tiger! Haha.
2007-02-08 07:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by cremedelacreme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I would say it should never play a big role in any relationships. I know that it's the physical attraction that usually gets to motivate someone to get to know another person. However, looks fade. It's the personality/character of the person that's the most important thing because that's what you will be dealing with whenever you're with her. Besides, if the person really loves you and want to be with you, it should never matter how you look like.
2007-02-08 07:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Goofyfut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should give her a reason to be with you and you should offer to buy her lunch for her. And you should treat her like a girlfriend and not like a friend. And you should buy her some jewelry or something that will make her feel loved and wanted sometimes (BUT DON'T TRY TOO HARD)! Girls like when they are loved and wanted by their boyfriends that is the way things are.Because u dont need to be physical all of the time.
2007-02-08 07:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by d c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction I think is important in a relationship BUT it should not be the main reason why you are with your significant other. I think people should be physically attracted to their partners because it keeps things exciting!!! So yes, I do think it's important..but there are other things that keep a relationship together..everythings is not just physical...
As for your girlfreind, you should really speak with her about why she has suddenly changed...(not kissin you in public, calling, ect) It may not be a physical attraction thing..it might be something else you never know... try not to be so hard on yourself and good luck! =)
2007-02-08 07:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any serious relationship can not survive without sex and physical attraction does have a big role to play in whether you want someone or not.
BUT
Looks or even personality has nothing to do with attraction, its chemistry that counts.
So,
Instead of feeling insecure, talk to your GF.
2007-02-08 07:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend, the debate is bogus!
the fact of the matter is she is with you!!...meaning she saw something in you that melted her heart. I am sure physically she finds you to her taste (likes is in the eye of the beholder!!!)
now, you have to stand up for yourself. be confident--> that's the biggest turn on for females. stop complaining and questioning her choice for staying with you because you end up validating what others might be saying and she might feel like if even YOU question her choice then she ought to be with someone else.
be strong, take her out, entertain her, BE yourself (that is ultimately why she originally hooked up with you) and leave the insecurities at the door!!
it is not too late to re-conquer her...she is still around :)
good luck!
2007-02-08 07:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it plays a role but not that bis as trust does confront her and ask her y she won't kiss u in public and if she says that she hates the way other people think of u then tell her that i can't be with some 1 like that and find some1 that loves and cares about u and not on the way people think of the way u look.
2007-02-08 07:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters initially, yes.
And if you let your looks change drastically, quickly,
it can change how a relationship works.
But generally, once the relationship is established,
its other things ...squishy things like personality, attitude,
etc. that tend to be deal makers and breakers.
If she doesn't have time, tell her that you are feeling
vulnerable - that you feel she is so beautiful and you
can't imagine why she would be with you and with
her lack of time, you wonder if she is beginning to
feel that way too...
In short, get it out in the open.
2007-02-08 07:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to be romantic and give her reason to be with you, maybe you should pay for her lunch?
2007-02-08 07:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by lllll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋