Why are people so mean...?

Question

I had asked how did I look and all the asweres I got were, Gay,Cheesy etc all I was trying to do was to get my self asteem up alittle it just brought me down all the way to the ground. why are people so mean?

Answer 1

honey only you can build up your self esteem, so don't look to others for what you need . you have to learn to love yourself no matter what and this was not the site to get your self esteem back . try loving yourself and then others will also love you. people treat you the way they see you treat yourself . so start showing yourself some love and do something nice just for you, and every time you start to feel down about yourself look in the mirror and tell yourself all the good qualities about yourself and what a great person you know you are and do that everyday . something nice about yourself everyday. look good put on some sexy underwear just for you, fix up your hair , put on nice clothes look good for yourself and trust me you will start to feel good and you don't need people to make you feel good about your self . if you need anymore advice please feel free to e-mail me

Answer 2

When some people insult others it makes them feel good, even though it shows that they have to do that to feel good. It means also that they have a low self-esteem. People can be so insecure. Also, when they diss they think it is cool because their friends hate that same thing and they wanna keep those friends , so they diss. Also, they`d like to say mean things, but they can`t in reality. So they do it behind a computer screen. And sometimes they are jealous so they diss. You do look really good though. And also, ask friends , not Y/A. Friends support you (good ones do, well they all should)

Answer 3

The only way you can build up your self esteem is for you to like yourself. No one else can do it for you. People can be really mean sometimes for absolutely no reason. Some people who come to this site genuinely want to be helpful and are really good people. Others just want to use it as a way to hurt people. They are mean and spiteful for no reason other than it's just what they feel like doing. If you know you are a good person and you feel good about yourself you don't need anyone to tell you how great you are. You seem like a nice person. Just try talking to someone you can trust about your feelings. Maybe that will help.

Answer 4

Not everyone is mean. Maybe you need to think about finding some new friends if the ones you have never have anything nice to say. Sometimes you can meet some good people with similar values to you at church, so that might be a good place to start. Or join an organization or group with a cause that is meaningful to you and you should find some friends with similar values there. Bottom line: It's their problem, not yours. You just need to find better friends.

Answer 5

I, myself, am less worried about how you look (you look nice) than in how you sound. You sound insecure.

Look at what you are asking: you're asking a bunch of anonymous (for the most part) people on an online forum (filled with a higher percentage of abberant personalities than you'll find even in the real world) how you look, and you seem to care and take their comments to heart?

Whatever for? I say get offline, get out and make some real friends who will appreciate you and stop reinforcing your own insecurities. Try getting involved in like-minded groups or just interact with as many people as you can in a pleasant way.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

because in society more and more people would rather bring someone down than to try to help them out. many people that do this do not have a high sefl-esteem themselves s they make fun of everyone else flaws to make themselves feel better. i know it sounds crazy but it is true. try to ignore them the best that you can. people that do this are not worth your time and effort. unfortunately, you are going to experience this all throughout your life (i speak from experience) and it is important that you do not let them get to you because that is what they want. if they find that it doesn't bother you anymore then chances are that they will go and find somone else to pick on. just keep a positive attitude and outlook on things. you are going to be the one with a great life and they are going to be the ones having a lot of problems because of the way they are. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 7

i personally don't see anything wrong with the way you look.
people on here feel that they can be as nasty as they want to be, because you are annonymous. not realizing that you can go to yahoo profiles and usually find the people, therefore sending them an e-mail (along the same lines as they answered your question)
don't feel bad, there are a few decent people on here, you just picked a day when all the losers were on.
what ? you've never heard the saying: LIFE'S A BED OF ROSES--YOU JUST HAVE TO WATCH OUT FOR THE PRICKS.
my advice is this, don't worry what other people think or say, we all have our good days and bad days. find something that you enjoy and stick with it.you never know one of these days we might see your face in one of these magazines.
good luck to ya!

Answer 8

Look hun you are beautiful, but you come across as a little bit mad, im mean why are you giving a food lecture in your profile, also the naked cartoon women is a bit weird, maybe people find you weird.

Im sure your a lovely person im just pointing out things that seemed a bit weird to me. Anyway why do you need any of our opinions to make yourself feel good about yourself?

Answer 9

Forget them. People who are intentional mean to others are usually very miserable and unhappy with themselves. This just goes to show that if you want to up your self-esteem, you can't look to others. That's something that has to be fixed from the inside. Yes, it's flattering to receive compliments, but when those compliments don't come, or you get mean/bad comments, you have to KNOW for YOURSELF that you look good. Good luck!

Answer 10

Because when one asks such, it's taken as one being vain and fishing for compliments. Your picture is too tiny to tell anything.
Other than you appear to be very pretty. I would suggest, in the future, dont ask, and you wont be offended. It doesnt matter all that much anyway. It's what's on the inside that really counts.