I'm 23 yrs old, single and still looking. I have been in many relationships, but whenever it starts to get serious, I get scared and run away.......why?
2007-02-08 07:23:23 · 20 answers · asked by Sean W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you realize appearances can be deceiving, and so can most women. There's a saying, "If it seems too good to be true, then it probably is". =)
Every relationship has flaws, as does every person. If the relationship and the person you are with seem perfect, then you haven't gotten beyond the surface of it or them yet. Maybe you instinctively realize this and either don't want to see beyond this or don't want to deal with anything that you might consider to be too troublesome, so you get out while you can.
It's when you see the flaws in the relationship and the person you're with and choose to proceed anyway, because you really don't mind that those flaws exist, or you care more about the relationship and the person than them, then that's when a relationship is actually perfect.
2007-02-08 07:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you have an issue with commitment. I have the same thing, to a lesser degree. Now, I don't know you, so this may not pertain to you at all, and if it doesn't, I'm sorry.
Serious commitment issues are sometimes derived from experience or observation. Did you maybe see your parents' marriage fail? Or perhaps a "perfect" relationship of yours ended horribly and unexpectedly. No matter what the reason, you seem like you are scared to let a good thing happen. That is not the way to live life. Talk to a friend or a parent, or even your significant other, about your problem. it is very possible that through talking to them, you will discover why you really run from serious relationships. If no one else can help, I would suggest seeing a councelor. I hope things work out for you.
2007-02-08 07:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by angelofmusic387 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad. Please do not run away that won't do any good. From reading what you have posted you seem like a very smart young guy. I could not imagine what you or your parents are going through right now. I respect you a lot though for telling them how you are and how you feel. But you have to think you're there son and this is all terribly shocking news to them. I am not gay but I have talked to gay people before and they say it isn't a choice, actually one guy told me years ago back when I was in middle school that he was born gay that he would give anything to like girls but he has tried and he just does not like them he likes men. So tell me one thing were you born gay or is it a choice? I am so confused on "gay" people. But anyways it will take your parents time to accept the fact that you are gay so I would just wait until you graduate then you can go off to college experience new things in life and see how you feel then. but I really hope everything works out for you! Time heals everything so don't worry about your parents right now they will always love you no matter what.
2016-05-23 22:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstable There is no such thing as a perfect relationship
so everytime u have one of those "perfect " situations dont think there is something wrong with u cuz there isnt.
You are just not ready or u havent found the unperfect relationship is going to make you Happy !
23 is the perfect age to play the game and find out what we really want in the future , all I can tell you is DATE and be honest
about the stage where you are at right now, pretty much every girl or dude in this planet knows now some of the rules of love and dating, pros and cons, u know !
cheers HAVE fun !
2007-02-08 07:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by yety21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're not ready for commitment. Maybe you haven't met the girl yet that makes you comfortable enough to want to stay with her. Don't worry about it a lot, or you may find yourself settling for some girl who is not at all your type, just because you feel that "at this age you should be ready to settle down". There's no set time limit on when your supposed to fall in love with the love of your life. When the time comes, it comes. Don't try to push yourself into it, or you and the girl will both be miserable. Just try to pay attention to the relationship, and not how serious it's getting, but how good or not so good it is. Good Luck.
2007-02-08 07:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's great that you're looking at this aspect of your life at this point in your life.
It's pretty normal to be 23 and still single. At least where I live.
As far as your behavior goes: the answer is somewhere within you, your childhood, your family. Sounds ditsy, but it's true.
There's a great book called: "He's Scared, She's Scared."
I think it might really help you figure out just what you're running away from.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 07:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
commitment issues... that's the only thing i can think of your not ready to settle down, you want to but something is saying not now. maybe your family history has something to do with it without you knowing. just sit and rethink what it is your looking for and what it is your wanting in a relationship and take it slow with the women and let them know your a runner and your trying to find out why. they will understand or run them self's good luck...
2007-02-08 07:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be the commintment that your running from. the thought of being with one person for the rest of your life is scary, at least until you find the right person. im only 18, but i use to do the same thing, run... for me it was because i didnt know it was possible to feel so strongly for someone...now ive found the greatest guy and im not afraid anymore.
2007-02-08 08:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by elida b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you think at first Oh this is such a good relationship I don't want to ruin it by making a mistake! And once you get all comfortable! Something pulls your trigger and makes you think you don't deserve this girl. But really you do any guy that tells there problems to every man is awesome and brave!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-08 07:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear of commitment. You dont want to risk letting anyone get close to you incase they hurt you. Most blokes have the same problem until they meet someone they really like.
2007-02-08 07:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋