we r bestfriends, i do love her. she says things that confuses me...like...she gets butterflies when shez around me, she feels good to hug me, she feels comfortable and safe with me, she is very happy that a guy as great as me loves her, and then she says ,,,i cant tell if i love u, i`m not sure, i sometimes like other guys and that makes me doubt loving u.. sometimes she talks as if we were couples and other times she shows upset for treating her like a lover. i`m very confused,,,its been 5 months since i told her i love her and since then i`m trying hard everyday. but lately i started to feel that i`m tired of trying for nothing...If i dated someone else, would that help to make her realize she loves me.,,or Does she really dont love me???!! i`m very confused.
2007-02-08 07:21:40 · 15 answers · asked by confused lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im confused 2...jus kiss her ..she how that goes
2007-02-08 07:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by ToddMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. I try'd that already, it might make her jelous if anything and then even if she changed her tune she'd just revert after the other girl was gone and you'd find yourself in the same situation. if she loved you she would know. When you really love somone its not a kind of sort of kind of thing. People say i love you too loosly, thats what she's doing. You guys are best friends. Your there for her and she knows that but by stringing you around , whih is what she's doing she's not being there for you. She needs to make up her mind. She's got you under her finger and she knows it. You need to not let her play games with you. You guys are not together so don't act or talk like you are. If she starts talking like that tell her not to. She doesn't love you, if she likes other guys it's as simple as that. You got feelings for her, you just have to put them to the side. Focus on being her friend. I would actually pull back from the situation and maybe try to limit interactions for a little rather then dateing somone else NOTHING GOOD WILL COME OF THAT. trust me not a good idea. If you've given it your all then thats all you can do.
2007-02-08 07:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by CandyCane1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may be afraid. You two are best friends and she may be afraid of losing that. Just by the way you say she acts around you it's easy to tell that she does like you. But love takes a while develop and she doesn't sound like she's too sure about it. It's okay for her to like other guys like a friend but if she meant as a potential boyfriend then she isn't ready for anything more than friends with you. It really sounds like she is just confused. She probably has strong feelings for you but she hasn't completely realized it yet and whenever you get close it just makes her even more confused. I wouldn't date someone else to get her to come around. Instead, I'd give her her space. If you don't want to do that then you should sit down and tell her either you two are going to be friends or bf/gf. What I mean is it sounds like sometimes you act like you two are a couple but you aren't. So whenever that starts to happen you should put a stop to it because it's just going to play with both or your emotions. So you should tell her to make a choice and then you stick with it until she comes around.
2007-02-08 07:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not the right match for u. She is just impressed by u. Slowly this would get lost n a day will come u'd even lose the friendship with her. I know guys like u will be very sincere in love but when it breaks u can't tolerate n start hating girls, n come to a conclusion that all females r mean. So keep away if u want a good future.
2007-02-08 09:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had any actual feelings for you she would have said so off the bat. Unfortunately sometimes women think to much for there own good. And then miss out on a great guy. Sometimes beause we think, why ruin such a great friendship with no attachments? She might not want a relationship at all, and if you want more than friendship and she isn't responding. I would suggest to let it go for a while, cool down and let fate take its course. If later on she isn't responding when you stop pressuring her. And you see your eye on another lady who does respond to you, then take a risk. But do not do it just to pressure the other individual. There isn't anything more terrible than useing someone for that kind of love triangle.
2007-02-08 07:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most great relationships begin as friendships. Maybe she is afraid of losing you as a friend by taking it to the next level. This is the case many times. Sometimes being friends is better than taking it to the next level, because she has come to depend on you at a friendship level. Give it time and don't date someone else just to prove a point or to hurt her.
2007-02-08 07:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by bsoundog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat as you. I liked this guy and i told him i liked him last month. In december my friends asked him out for me but came back with " he sees you as a friend" any way I recently gave up because he started flirting with other girls infront of me giving me the sign he didnt really meant it. So i moved on and i think you should too. I think if she really liked you she would have come out with it already. So go ahead a date someone else and see what happens.good luck!:)
2007-02-08 07:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by I<3Apollo Anton Ohno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok like man chill just wait for the right moment and maybe..kiss her. depending on how deep you guys are. dont date anyone else that will make her feel as if you dont love her. take her out somewhere romantic and so she will realize what a real sweet gu you are truely inside.
2007-02-08 12:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not usually & actual not with someone i do not think & understand extremely properly. i'm satisfied regardless of the reality that that you're feeling better effective & the argument has been resolved, so it really is wonderful to do not forget that speaking about issues can extremely make a huge difference.
2016-12-03 22:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, honey dot be confused she just playing with you,You need to stop being her floor mat because you can do better you dot need a girl like that how play with you're heat .
She dot love you ?If you going to dated make sure she like you and you like her Because you dot what to brake a girl heart like they doing to you .
Just for get her and move on with you're life , you're a nice guy how can do better?
Good luck?
2007-02-12 02:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid following your imaginations! it could hurt you both. take her out where no body will disturb you. talk to her and get things straight out. make her understand your feelings for her.. if she is still confused than move on. whatever her response be a friend.
she will miss you when you stop giving toooo much of attention to her as before.
2007-02-08 09:53:13 · answer #11 · answered by cheer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋