Me and my girlfriend are both 17 and go to the same high school. Everytime I'm around her i feel like she's distracted. She never focuses on talking to me when we're talking and we'll often get interupted by someone else and she'll talk to them before coming to me. She's not affectionate (although she's not that kind of person anyways) and I just feel that I'm taken for granted. Today I walked away from her several times and did not turn back when she was calling me to apologize, because I'm simply sick of it. I told her not to call me because untill she learns to talk to me in person that she's not talking to me on the phone, because things can't always go her way, by her schedual, and then I went home. Did i make the right choice? should i stick by this? Any other suggestions?
2007-02-08 07:15:33 · 21 answers · asked by Hurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys are obviously two differn't people. She being unaffectionate and you maybe expecting it. I'm only 19... I can speak form experience that atleast for me when i'm into somone there the one i focus on for the most part. Thats not to say that she should constantly adress you fist but atleast let you know that she's interested. If you feel like she's takeing you for granted your always going to feel that way. Trust me theres No No No use in trying to make her change, if thats how she is, then thats how she is and your always going to feel like your missing something from her. Unfortunetly she can't give you what your looking for, so theres no use and i think what you did was the right decision because if you feel like she's running all over you then you need to stand up for yourself and let her know thats not ok.
2007-02-08 07:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by CandyCane1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you made the wrong decision. It's sort of a blunt and hurtful way almost...but it should hit her hard and give her time to think. Although you may need to be more clear w/her about what she did wrong. Communication is the key to any relationship working. You are both young and she may be clueless. I am not sure how experienced she is w/relationships but I am thinking she isn't very knowledgeable in that dept...no offense to anyone but y'all are young. I would stick w/your feelings n needs being met but you may need to help her out too by letting her know exactly what is on your mind etc... and hopefully she can work on it. Hopefully y'all can work on it together but definitely let her know you are serious. I am sure you really don't want to end it with her but I am sure you are pretty frustrated and fed up w/this behavior.
Best wishes w/your situation n God Bless!!
2007-02-08 07:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like its not only because of the social scene at school distracting *her, and it is constant. I would stick by this! Let her know you are tired of it and she can either change or find someone else to treat that way. Relationships go both ways and she cant expect for you to pay attention or come to when she wants you too. Ya know. Goodluck. You sound like a nice guy.
2007-02-08 07:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems she is sorta taking advantage of you. Not in a bad way though, you also have to see how she does treat you when not around other people. Sometimes people with low attention spans do cause this problem a lot with significant others. But you also have to understand though that you feel the cold shoulder to only yourself, then i believe your love intake is different than what she is giving you. And looking for someone who shares the same love connection, would make you much happier than having to have to come use to hers.
2007-02-08 07:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by Yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your school studies. School is the most important thing for you to worry about right now. This advice comes from someone who wished she would have worried more about homework and test instead of boys and parties. Ask this question again when you're having girlfriend problems in college. Good luck!
2007-02-08 07:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jen H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a sit down face to face conversation with this girl.
She might be feeling too thin spread. She might be pulling away. She might be a lot of things, but only she can tell you what is up with her.
You need a lot of attention and affection. If your current girlfriend is not giving you what you need...then you can find one that will. Your complaint is usually that of a girls. You are young and if I am trying to make a point to you at all...it would be not to waste your time on things you don't want nor need.
2007-02-08 07:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have been together. If you have been together for a while and this behavior is new than you might have a problem. If this is a new relationship and she has been this way from the beginning then its just the way she is. Either way you should try talking to her about the way you feel and go from there.
2007-02-08 07:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by struck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously she's not the type of person you want anyway so you made the right decision. Don't linger in your decisions, you mnade it deal with it. You deserv somoen better who will give you affection, the type you need. Good luck hon!
2007-02-08 07:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for sticking up for yourself. I think you made the right decision. If she cares about you she will come around and if not then you are better off. No one likes to be ignored.
2007-02-08 07:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you did the right things sometimes people need to be aware of the things they are doing, even if they don't realize they are doing it stick it out she will come around and things will improve.
2007-02-08 07:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Melody J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋