I have a major problem. My girlfriend I have a six month old son.?

Question

I am not in love with my girlfriend anymore. She is a great person, and I love her but am not in love with her. I love my son more than anything in the world, and I want him to live with me. If we split up she will get custody except for the weekends. Right now I am just trying not to think about it, but I have to make a decision soon. I feel bad not telling her how I feel, and I feel like I'm cheating myself by staying in the relationship. What the hell should I do?

Answer 1

You should do what's best for you. If you don't love her then get out. I understand that you have a son with her, but you can't live in a lie like that. Unless there is a Court Ordered Custody agreement, you can still see your son when you want to, just make sure you call ahead of time. If you want to get full custody of your son, go to court and get custody. If you don't have the money to go to court, then work out an arrangement for you to see your son.

Answer 2

#1 your problem is that you have a child not that your not in love, as long as you will pay alimony you'll be cool to see other chicks... well actually you would be cheating your son if you left the relationship, your the one who decided to not wear a condom, now man up and when that kid is 10 then leave so at least his childhood had 2 parents in it instead of one, cause if you leave now the kid will eventually hate you cause the mother will have scorn for you and tell a bunch of lies how your a bad person and all this ish so do the right thing, enjoy your kid and just remember the best thing to do if you feel like you dont like your baby moma, CHEAT make her throw you outta the house, but dont try and get caught thats just fu cked up

Answer 3

Best if you tell her the truth, there is no safe way out of it. Remember there is a child in this relationship the sooner you make this end, it won't be soo hard for the little one to understand later. Being in a relationship when there is no love anymore and just for the child is hurting them more than letting them deal with a separation.

Answer 4

just be honest with her and have to say she will have more tI'me with your son but if you break it to her in a way yes she will be hurt but im sure she may feel the same way and let you see your son as often as you like.. not all women are bad like that. she will see you care for him and also as long as you pay child support then there should be no issue on getting him when you want him just watch out if you get a new gal she may want you to keep your son away from this women till you know she is the one and that she knows she Will never be mom...good luck to you and remember be open and honest and come up with plans before you leave..

Answer 5

well hun you really need to tell, if you dont it will only get worse.
if you stay, your child will grow-up in a faulse loving environment, im not only meaning you hun, her too.
now what i think you should do is this.............
if that was to happen and she threatens you with the court thing then say.. ''ok im not gonna play games, i find it fair that you have him for the week, then after that following week i get to see my son for that week then visa versa.
now i know that there are alot of girls out there who will take you to court, so you pay child support, but really the money is basiclly going to them, they get greedy,
or they get custody and you have the child most of the time, so she can go off and do whatever.
you need to be careful on this approch, dont come on to strong and dont and i mean dont, argue with her and then say how you feel coz that cold get ugly and then munipulation comes into play.
i hope you make a wize decision, ok

good luck hun

Answer 6

Your in a bit of a pickle... It's not a good idea to stay in a relationship with someone you don't love. It's not going to work and eventually will end because you won't beable to fool her or yourself forever. If you go that route things will turn out terrible. It's a hard thing to do especially with your son in the mix, but you know you have to break it off. It's going to hurt but you have to tell her how you feel about her... I'm kind of in your girl friends situation... My boyfriend just dumped me... it's not as complicated as yours but i was completly in love with him. He told me that he just didn't feel the same and it hurts more and more every day but i can't hate him. He could have done worse. He could have lied to me, cheated on me, or strung me along. He did what he had to do and i respect him for that.

Answer 7

Well, you're in an interesting situation, but it can be resolved. If you aren't happy, you aren't happy and it's time to make some changes. You'll have to file for joint custody (aka shared parenting). Unless you can prove she's an unfit parent, the courts usually suggest shared parenting. Which to be honest, that isn't a bad thing. You will survive it and so will your child =) It's unfortunate to be in that situation, but one doesn't deserve to be unhappy everyday either. Good luck and let me know!

Answer 8

Patrick you must come clean and tell just what you said here.Man Up And take care of your baby. Maybe she will give you custody. Be true to yourself why live in a loveless relationship.you have to be happy in order to make your son happy.

Answer 9

Should have thought about all that BEFORE you had a kid. Be honest with her , try to do what is best for your son, taking him from his mother is not gonna happen without good cause, so be prepared for the consequences of splitting up.

Answer 10

don't stay in this relationship , move on but talk to her and split in a nice way , don't show your weakness for out kid to her , she might use it . getting custody only on weekends is better that staying in a relationship .