It's a thing I really don't understand...
Someone said to me that love isn't one sided, only infatuation is.
So is it still love even if they don't love you and can you actually accept that they love someone else?
Someone explain please?
Thanks.
2007-02-08 07:07:08 · 10 answers · asked by Hitomi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My daughter Penny was working at the same Oil Co. as Fred. They became friends and Penny soon found she was falling in love with Fred. Fred was still not over a past relationship with a secretary at the same Co. but he did not intend to pursue that. Penny said to me "Mother, I love Fred so much that I want his happiness above all else." "If Fred loves her and she would love him, then that is what I would want for Fred".
Bless her heart, she meant that and I hurt so bad for her as she & Fred continued to date. A few years they dated and the love grew and now Penny & Fred have been happily married for 15 years. She never pushed or crowed him. She didn't want him as a rebound. He is a wonderful son-in-law.
I hope this little true story has helped you.
Good Luck and God Bless You
2007-02-08 07:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes. Of course you want them to be happy and you need to be happy too! So if they don't have the same feelings for you as you for them....you won't be happy! Yes I would say if you love someone you would want the best for them. Love is many things! If you look it up on dictionary.com 14 definitions come up plus another 14 more definitions when used differently & w/phrases.
To get off of the person you love.....girl you deserve the whole kittencaboodle!! You may feel this overwhelming feeling of love n confusion but think about how good it's going to feel if you top it off w/mutual feelings!! Man...what a feeling that should be. I am still waiting..... It's not going to be easy to let go if that is the case but it should make you stronger, smarter and even more ready for the big bang in the love department!!!
Best wishes & God Bless you ; )
2007-02-08 07:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For myself I define love as peace, beauty and truth. That offers me a sufficient guidance. An opposite to love would be fear in my mental universe.
I feel that a spiritual development is a natural unfolding and it can't be promoted by someone else just because that person chooses to do so (in order to feel loving).
If that happens it most often comes from the ambition of the ego and ego's idea of being of help in some certain-defined way. That is not how it works.
If done in that way it can often feel as an intrusion or even an attempt to control. In that case I'd say it's enough to say 'to extend yourSelf towards a clearly perceived need of another'. That chimes better with my own experience.
love is a decision, a work.... at least until you become aware of the fact that love is your true natural state and acting from it is therefore unavoidable for you. Love is what love does...in that case that dichotomy disappears. Your actions are loving becaise you are pure love.
Loveas work--- perhaps that I could see it like a content in a spiritual discipline of some sort. However, it is not about becoming some good-doer so that you feel better about yourself. It is more about you becoming at ease with anything that happens to you.
2007-02-08 07:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by niesy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love someone that I can never be with. There is too big an age difference. He says age doesn't matter but I know he could never truly be happy in the long run with someone much older than him. I want him to be happy. I want him to be able to find someone his own age that he can grow old with rather than watch me grow old while he's still young. It hurts, but I just want the best for him. Even if that means being without him.
2007-02-08 07:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by wrjones559_1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm not gonna say if its love or not cuz well thats not for me to judge. But you do care about him deeply!
I mean ive been here before, alot of ppl have. It hurts you soo much that you cant hae them but you want them to be happy. So you go through heartache for them.
I guess in a way its love, some stage of it anyways. And youll probably always have some sort of feelings for them! i mean it wasnt your feelings that changed! it was his! So you were just left to die!
So you see him with girls and your heart starts racing, a big frog in your throat, because even though he doesnt love you he's trying to fall for someone else, and your jealous cuz you dont think shell be as good as you were for him,right? right?
well i thought this when it happened to me, but babe as time goes on it will get easier your feelings will fade, not neccesarily dissapear but fade. Your strong! And depending on your age, you migt do this to another guy. So life moves on. Ok! youll be fine!
Best of wishes.
Tip: Listen to music, itll release some of the pain.
2007-02-08 07:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that "yes" should be the correct answer, but when I ask myself that question and I answer it HONESTLY, I would have to say "no". I know it is definitely selfish, but sometimes it's just too much to see someone you love with someone other than you....
I guess I would like to see them happy with someone else, but only after I've found a new love.
2007-02-08 07:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by Laura C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really love some one you put there happiness first. But if you are "in love" with them, then you are prioritizing your own emotions.
And love can be one sided, or unrequited, love is a broader term, full of individual connotations and dual meanings. It isn't limited to one situation like that.
2007-02-08 07:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by perpetual_filth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am. it sucks when the person you truly love doesn't like you or love you. I want my crush to be happy with his gf. and i know that he luvs her. just remember that ther is s.o.s out there for everyone and thats including you.
just be happy and move on. it's the right thing.
2007-02-08 07:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by munchy_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if you love someone and they don't love you back - you've got to let them go so that they can be happy
2007-02-08 07:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone, set them free.
2007-02-08 07:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋