I have a nine month old baby and older children as well, I do also care for other children as well, this child however is causing me some major problems. I am watching him as a favour to his father, his wife left and he works full time and is in a bind so I can't even back out. I think that all of the drama in the childs life has just just caused some major disipline problems. I could use some advice or ideas that I could try to calm him down a bit. He is disrupting all of the other children in the home and causing me a fair bit of frustration as well.
2007-02-08 07:02:48 · 5 answers · asked by crazybubbleblower 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he throws himself on the floor screams at the top of his lungs over anything, hits the other children, won't eat, throws his food on the floor and has a generally miserable time all day. i do feel sorry for him but he is majorly disrupting the harmony of our little life.
2007-02-08 09:10:48 · update #1
It sounds like the baby is having major adjustment issues and needs comfort. He needs consistency in his discipline and positive feedback when he's being good. If he does something wrong, put him in a time out (if you're not already) and when he's good, give him a reward (special playtime or tickles). Maybe there's a way you can give him a little bit more attention to make him feel good...like if you play a game, let him be the "star" or at reading time, let him pick the book. Can his father come sit with you at lunch or something for a while so the baby has someone familiar until he adjusts to the new situation?
I'm sure you know it but the child needs a lot of patience right now. He's too small to understand where his mother went and he's grieving for her. He doesn't know how to express his feelings but he just needs a little more love right now than usual. I know it's hard for you and the other children. Maybe you can get some help for at least part of the day - a friend or relative that can come occupy the other children while you gain some trust with the 20 month old. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-08 07:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didnt mention the problems, so its hard to answer. Start with talking to Dad. But, the best thing is to have a routine! Same thing, same time, every day. Give him some one-on-one time, even if its 2 minutes. Give him a special toy that only his - a wooden spoon even!. He's probably very confused and screaming out for love and security. Rules, routine, love and attention. Sounds new-agey, but it works. Good luck.
2007-02-08 15:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the father of this child. Let him know about the problems you are having with his son. He should be the one talking to his son. Hopefully with a talk from his dad, and some time he will adjust and things will get better.
Good Luck.
2007-02-08 15:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell the father about it first of all and see if he acts like this at home and also have the father tell him how he is supposed to act at your house....also try timeout..or taking away a toy he really likes if he doesnt mind
2007-02-08 15:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might not be the best idea but...have you tried a gravol?
2007-02-08 15:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by JD 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋