My 3 yr old is refusing to take his nap or even lay down at Daycare. Instead he runs around the room screaming and hitting his friends with his blanket and other things. Sometimes kicks. The teachers are calling, but he refuses to get on the phone. They relay my message - it's nap time, you don't have to sleep, but you do have to lay on your mat and be quiet. We have started taking toys and treats away and granted back when he is good, but that isn't working. I don't know what to do! He takes them at home, or at least lays there being quiet until nap time is over. I need some suggestions, before he gets kicked-out.
2007-02-08 06:51:09 · 8 answers · asked by koralewski2002 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Are there items that your son usually has when he naps at home and does not have when he is at daycare? He might want/need a special pillow, blanket, or stuffed animal.
He might need to be moved to a different area of the room. Could the teacher give him a quiet toy or a couple of books to look at while he lays down? When I worked in daycare, I was in the 3 year old room, we would allow certain ones that we knew did not nap to look at books or have a quiet toy. We also had these children in a different area of the room from the ones that did nap. If you ask for this, they should be able to accommodate these requests quite easily.
You might want to talk to your son about what is expected and give him a chance to earn stickers/points for when he lays down and it quiet. With these stickers/points, he can earn treats or other rewards. Give him a goal to work for. It could be ice cream, Chuck E. Cheese, trip to the Zoo, etc. as long as it is something he will enjoy.
2007-02-08 07:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to work at a day care and had a little boy with this same problem.........haha arent they darlings. We would try a lot of things.....taking away a cuddle toy and returning it if he was good, or not giving him his cuddle toy until he was lying nicely. Perhaps they may lay with him and tickle or rub his check or arm, that puts them to sleep like nothing else! Remove him from the room of kids, put him in his own little room or corner to sleep, do not let him join the rest of the kids once rest time is over until he has laid on his mat and rested for a period of time. Maybe they could put a movie in and let him lay down and watch it. Talk to your son and see what he would like, maybe a different spot, or a mat, or blanket might work. Be consistant at home too, make sure he lays down there and follows the rules. Maybe the staff can give him a puzzle or book to look at..........some kids are just too old for nap time and most day cares have nap/rest time anyways......are daycare used to tell the kids if they laid nice and quiet for 20 minutes they could have a book or toy to play with quietly on their mats.........this way they are still resting and quiet without disturbing the others............hope some of this helps!
Good Luck
2007-02-08 15:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by lin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
mystic_ey... here in Ohio children are required to have a rest time for 1 1/2 hours for a full day of child care. you are busted if the state comes in and finds a child sitting at a table w/ a book or puzzle. they must be on their cots quietly. they can read a book or be doing a puzzle, something quiet. No choice. Mom may need to come in during nap time to 'lay down the law' once or twice unexpectedly. this may help. He may be just overtired, or overstimulated. Waiting till you go home and do punishment is after the fact and he won't get the connection. Like I said, try to work it out with your boss and take your lunch break going to the day care. Present it as this will help reduce calls from the school during work.
(on a good note, at least they aren't doing some of the stuff like holding him down or laying on top of him to control him. some centers do this, sadly)
2007-02-08 21:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I worked in daycare for two years and in every age group. Ask the teachers to sit beside his mat and pat him, that usually worked with our kids. Plus it's nap time once lunch is cleaned up there usually isn't a whole lot to do. They should be able to accommodate you and if not maybe it's time to look somewhere else for child care. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-08 18:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by kt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The daycare needs to find a way to accomidate YOUR child. Obviously he doesn't need a nap. I think 3 years old is a little old for a mandatory nap. And he is too young to read quietly. He needs to go play with older kids or one of the staff needs to read to him and keep him entertained. That is what you are paying for.
2007-02-08 15:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think your child feels safe at this day care.Is this a new experience for him? Maby you can show up one day at nap time to check on him.He may need your assurance that he is with people who will watch over him while he naps.
2007-02-08 14:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by zzum 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a suggestion that involves you going to his daycare with a wooden spoon.
2007-02-08 14:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Smeather 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
suffacate him in a plastic tesco bag or chuck him down the stairs it worked for my kid
2007-02-08 14:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋