problem getting girls?

Question

i am a sophomore in college but dont have a gf.....i get really nervous when talking to girls....would any girl like to talk to me to help gain my confidence so that i can someday ask someone out

Answer 1

You need to come out of you're shyness.
Why can't you ask to talk to a girl in person to help you out?
Trust me, most girls feel honored to be asking for help on this stuff.

Answer 2

First, ther are several websites that offer advice on that exact subject (and they aren't like, how to be a player) Google how to flirt. Second, as someone who graduated college several (like 10) years ago,don't look for a g/f! Women are gonna hate me for this but I'm a guy and I'm just being honest. After you leave school, NEVER again will you have the chance to be around so many available women in an environment where you can hook up. NEVER. Have a g/f after you graduate. For now, just have fun.most of the women around you are doing the same. You don't have to worry about " I hooked up but don't really want to date her" if she feels the same way. I had a serious g/f my senior year, and after I graduated and we had broken up, I suddenly realized that dating, etc in the real world is a whole different ball game and it's not nearly as much fun.So enjoy it,kid! You've only got 2 more years(or 4, or 6 ).
My friend and I joked about our " Law Firm" we had in college;
Meter, Banger and Lever PC
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Answer 3

Sounds like you need to build up your self-confidence. Start small. Next time you are at the store or gas station, try asking the clerk or salesperson how his or her day has been so far. It will make them happy, and it will get you used to the idea of talking to strangers. Make it a point to casually talk to strangers that you pass by at the mall or on the street just to say "hi".

A lack of confidence is a big turn off to many girls. No one wants a coward for a boyfriend.

Another guy posted a similar question, so I will cut & paste the response that I gave him. I hope you don't mind. Most of us guys suffer from the exact same problem.

Don't get upset if someone reacts to you the wrong way and makes a scene or gets offended. Some people are just rude, or having a bad day, so just forget about it and move on to the next person. Learning to be social is a learning experience, after all, so it is OK to make a few mistakes and offend a few strangers by accident. They will get over it, and so will you.

You can also build up your self-confidence by asking yourself, aren't you a nice person? Don't you make a good friend? Then if she turns you down, then SHE is the one who missed out on getting to know someone as wonderful as you. YOU are the prize, not her, and don't you forget it. If she turns you down, then she has done you the favor of freeing you up to talk to someone who actually does appreciate you, so don't take it personally if one person here or there doesn't like you.

And maintain good eye contact when you talk to people. if you are always looking at the ground when you speak to people, they will think that you are a psycho (or else she will think that you are looking at her breasts and get offended). If you are too nervous to maintain eye contact for long, then try to break eye contact by looking away horizontally as if you were looking for your friend, not by looking down. And don't slouch; it makes you look submissive and weak. Make a conscience effort to stand up straight.

Women like a sense of humor, so you can start a conversation with a small joke about something that she is doing, looking at, or wearing. Not only will this it make you seem fun, but it implies that you have some confidence because it implies that you are will to risk offending her (someone could potentially take the joke the wrong way, but this also serves as a screening function for you -- why date a prude with no sense of humor?).

And don't talk about everyday stuff, that's boring. Talk about something light and fun (women want to have fun on a date, not engage in a classroom lecture). If you cannot think about anything funny to say, then walk up to her and ask her opinion on something regarding male/female relations, or the latest famous person's scandal (tell her that you are trying to settle a bet with a friend or something).

Answer 4

well what makes u nervous when talking to girls? you shouldnt be nervous if your being yourself. but one good way of talking to a girl is complementing her on something shes wearing. or ask her umm that smells so good what kind of pefrom are u wearing start a small conversation with her but if your still having trouble u can email me at [e-mail] ok oh but when u talk to girls try not to seem a little too desprite just be yourself

Answer 5

I'm not a girl but try to be yourself and do not try to have a big conversation the first time. Start with small talk and then work you way up to having longer conversations.

Answer 6

Did you ever think that the girls think the same as you?
Not all girls are go get the guy they want to be chased and maybe it sounds old fashioned but it does happen

Answer 7

Laywer is laughing at you, yet lawyer is feeling sorry for you. Watch the movie Hitch.

Answer 8

Damn, that is sad. You should try to hang out with your friends and tell you to hook you up..... or talk to the shy girls!!!! -_-

Answer 9

yeah, I have trouble getting guys I have no confidence and think that I am ugly,

Answer 10

do what i do..drink a few beers and you will feel much more confident to go up to ladies