I am just a lonely guy. I've tried the speed dating, the online and people just do it for entertainmnet purposes or research on dating for a psych class. I like going to the Museum of Modern Art, Broadway Shows, Central Park, Upstate NY the parks the lake, I own two dogs, I have a BA in Social work and working on another in Human Services. I have a Casac-T and will have a new job as a Substance Abuse Counselor. I don't have that tough guy attitude, I'm into classical music till the 70's I also write and keep busy. I am not ripped but do take care of myself. I'm tired of just being alone. I've never had a GF and don't want but would like one. Someone to go to sleep next to and wake up to. Someone who is there for me and vice versa. Someone who knows who she is and what she wants. True.com Yahoo Personals, Eharmony, all those online and off line sites do not take dating seriously. So what now? Do I keep trying or just accept the fact and give up?
2007-02-08 06:48:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like me last year. You can't be looking for it or else it will never come.
Things come when you least expect it.
2007-02-08 06:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this situation you are in, one thing you didn't mention was your age, so we don't know how long you have been alone.
I have been on dating sites and I have had dirty old men writing to me, one was 51 years old, I said to him that I am not attracted to men older than myself, and he wrote very offencive emails to me saying that he hoped I died of aids, these dirty old men don't get the message that younger women only want old geezers if they have lots of money. I have also had men writing to me using profiles of other men, this has happened on a number of occasion so you start to think, can you trust anyone? To tell you the truth today I had to write to a guy diplomatically to say that if he puts a picture of a beautiful male model by his profile women will fall for the picture and not him, and if he ever wants to meet the women he has been in correspondence with they will get a bit of a shock when they see him, that he doesn't look like his picture.
So what do you do, laugh,cry, go crazy or give up? I am in just the same situation as you. It is so funny at times because I have looked into my in box from men who have been in contact with me and half of them look like models, but the unfortunate thing is that the ugly guys are most probably the real person and half the attractive men may well he spam, pictures of attractive men that are sent to a number of women and not so attractive men are pertending to be them. I think it all goes to prove that women go for looks just as much as men.
So I hope that cheered you up, that you are not alone and men are doing it to women too. Hopefully you will get someone decent to write to eventually they can not all be idiots
2007-02-08 07:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by mellouckili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound wonderful, so don't give up. All I can say is love will come when it is ready.I meet my husband after I had given up on love. I think it happen because I was not looking for it. If you haven't tried E Harmony try that one I've heard good things about that one.
2007-02-08 07:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by BeBu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋