Am I too young to think this?

Question

I've known my boyfriend for three years. We've been infatuated with each other since. Under certain circumstances we did not finally tell each other how we felt until he left for basic training in the army this summer. Since then things have grown greatly between us. when he came back this Christmas we became official and things between us were amazing. I know he is truely in love with me and I for the first time told a boy that I loved him. Things are so intense between us. The more time goes on, I think that I do want this person in my life for forever. But I am only 18 and this thought kind of scares me. But I feel, that I have found the perfect guy in so many ways and I would do anything for me and he would do anything for me. Am I too young to think about wanting to spend the rest of my life with him, maybe even marrying him in the future? Would it be weird to bring it up to him? He has told me many times, that he is mine for forever. So I know I have him.

Answer 1

No, it's not too early. But you might want to wait untill you both have your economic independence so that you can have a nice home and a happy little family! It's truly precious, this love you have. You are one lucky girl.

Answer 2

You are very young to make a life-long commitment. You have a lot of things to be thinking about right now. If you have to ask the question, "am i too young..." then you probably already know that the answer is "yes".

That doesn't mean that you won't end up together happily ever after.... it just means that it is too soon to know.

When the young man is in the service in a time when young service men are going into harm's way, life becomes very intense and short-seeming.

When the 18-year-old woman's hormones and passions are raging with anxiety for him, for their future, awakening understanding of what love can mean... all of those things... the feelings are really overwhelming.

Will you grow out of these feelings? Maybe not. Maybe. You will grow. These feelings will probably mellow -- such things usually do.

You will pass the days and weeks and before you know it, months and years... and one day, you will know with more certainty what is right for you and him... and what is the right next step. For right now, you are both twitterpated with your feelings for eachother. Enjoy this time -- it will be a great memory some day. Take lots of pictures, make lots of memories, and remember everything you can.

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I are 17 and we think this way, so no I don't think you're too young. Love happens when it happens, just sometimes it can be that us young people run into this and we're so in love with the idea of being in love that it's not really love we feel. Infatuation isn't love, it is apart of it though. But when the infatuation is gone you don't have anything else. Things could be perfect now, but think about it long and hard and truly get to know this person before you decide to commit anything because if you're not ready or if you don't know anything about him you may be making a big mistake. Good luck hon, I hope you make the right decision!

Answer 4

You are way to young and will regret getting married at 18. You just finished high school and you haven't even lived a partial life yet.

Women got married young in the old days because the got pregnant early or had no self esteem and needed an instant remedy (husband to fall back on).

Hold off on marriage for a few years until he gets back from basics and his first tour. Enjoy your life before marriage. Once you tie the knot, you can no longer experience all of the joys of being single.

Hell, you haven't even had your first night out in a bar with the girls, legally.

Answer 5

No, you are not too young to feel this way. If you believe he is the one for you and he feels the same way, that is cool. You guys should continue to go forward. Yes, you should tell him you feel this way. You should always be honest and straight forward, I think you already learned a lesson on that. He should know where you stand and the same goes for you where he is concerned. You do not have to rush and get married. If the love is there it is not going to go anywhere if you continue to nourish it and you also need to make sure that you go forward in the plans you have for yourself and hope that he will want to grow with you. I know I said a mouthful, but I have been married 13 years and I feel like a know a little about this.

Answer 6

I have been in your situation. I married my high school sweetheart and he was in the military. Thank goodness we ended up breaking up for awhile and doing our own thing before getting married at 25. Listen I wanted to get married when he was in the military. This can turn out to be a huge mistake for a lot of woman and young girls. What happens is he ends up getting deployed and you are stuck in another city alone and not having a husband at home. My advise for you would be. As hard as it is wait. Go to college or get a job and enjoy your young life while he is gone with your family around. If it is meant to be you will still be together when you are like 21 or 22 reevaluate the situation. The statistics show when couples get married too young they usually fail. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 7

When guys go to war those of us left behind naturally want to cling tighter to them. I married young and we are still together it is not impossible but it very very hard. Why not wait awhile and see what happens. You are so young yet in many ways. You said " I have him" nobody has anybody none of us know what will happen in the future. Second the perfect guy comment- No one is perfect if we go into marriage expecting perfection from each other it will not last long. Date and have fun when he gets home and take your time before jumping into anything you have plenty of time to let your relationship grow if it is meant to be.

Answer 8

Don't press marriage. Let him commit when he thinks it's time. You can ask once when he thinks it might be, but that's it. Don't ask more than once. Pressure is a deal breaker.

Now, about the age thing. I've seen people get married and fall in love at every age. There's lots of life left in you and if you don't mind committing for the long haul, go for it.
I have known people who never played the dating game and who never lived by themselves. Some regret it, others don't.

Answer 9

You know when it's right. You can be 18, 35, 52 whatever age =) Some people never find that type of relationship so it's great that you two have! If you really want this and he wants this as well, go for it! I don't think age has anything to do with it. Let me know how things go!

Answer 10

I'm 28 and have never felt that way about anyone. If you think you have found the love of your life, take a chance. And you shouldn't worry about the future, it hasn't happened and none of knows what it will bring.