I apperently don't pay any attention at weddings but I though the bride and groom did it. I saw another question on here stating the parents normally do it??
Who lights the darn thing??
2007-02-08 06:29:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have seen the grooms mother light one and the brides mother light one. Then the bride takes her moms candle and the groom takes his moms candle and together they light the unity candle. This symbolizes the families "uniting".
2007-02-08 06:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by brandi from texas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to use the Unity Ceremony, you will need 3 candles.After the guests arrive,2candles are lit in the ceremony area with one larger or taller candle remaining unlit between the smaller candles. Normally the unlit and larger candle is placed higher than the others. Normally the Mothers of the bride & groom light the 2candles as the beginning of the wedding.As the Ceremony begins and as the 2 are joined as 1, the Bride & Groom together light the middle or larger candle from the two smaller candles & extinguishing the them as a sign they have joined together . OR>>>>>When all the guest have arrived, the head usher lights their candle.The Mother of the Bride & Groom then light the two smaller candles then the ceremony begin.As the 2 are joined as 1,then the Bride & Groom take their candles & light the Unity Candle & extinguish their candle. At this point the guests extinguish theirs leaving only 1 lit candle showing the Unity of the couple in their bond of marriage with their guests. OR >>>>it really up to you as you decide to do.
2007-02-08 06:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by A.T.D. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom light the unity candle. The parents light the bride and groom's respective smaller candles which the bride and groom use to light the unity candle.
The way it happened at weddings i've been to: the father and mother of the bride and groom, in turnwalk down the aisle and light the smaller candles beside the unity candle. During the ceremony the bride and groom use these candles to light their unity candle. Sometimes the smaller candles are then blown out, to signify bride and groom leaving their families to start their own. Sometimes they are left lit to signify that they are still connected to their parents.
2007-02-08 08:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jordan D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two candles that then light a third (the unity candle). The mothers of the bride and groom (usually, I guess it could be the fathers, but I've never seen it) light the two small candles. The bride and groom then take those (each takes the one their mother lit) and TOGETHER light the one big candle, the unity candle.
So, yes, the bride and groom light the actual unity candle, but not without the parents lighting theirs first. It's a symbol of the two families becoming one.
2007-02-08 06:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are three candles. One big one in the middle and two smaller ones on either side. The bride's parents light the one on the left of the big one and the grooms parents light the one one the right before the ceremony. Then during the ceremony the groom uses the candle on the right and the bride uses the candle on the left to light the middle candle together. hope i helped
2007-02-08 07:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always a variance on these things. Usually the mothers light the outer two candles and then the bride & groom light the center candle, representing two individuals becoming one.
But sometimes the outer candles are lit by the ushers and then the center candle is lit by the two mothers or sets of parents to signify that two families are being brought together by this marriage.
And sometimes, when there are children involved, they all light the center candle.
There are other unity ceremonies as well; sand, wine, unity bouquet, handfasting, rose, lasso.........
Though candles have been a big part of weddings the unity candle is relatively new to our weddings. And some clergy don't allow the candle ceremony as they believe it subtracts from the exchanging of vows & rings. Check with your officiant before making solid plans.
2007-02-08 06:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mom has directed many weddings. It can be done a variety of ways. The groomsmen/ushers can light them prior to the services beginning...that's one way to do it, especially if there are different family situations involved. The traditional way is to have the parents do it. There is some latitude in this. You can have the couples do it, one for each family or you can have just the Moms do it. Then, during the ceremony the bride and groom light the center (or unity) candle uniting both families.
Congratulations!
2007-02-08 07:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by milldan65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents usually the mothers ,each light 2 seperate candles and then during the ceremony the bride and groom take those candles and light the big unity candle symbolizing 2 becoming one.
2007-02-08 06:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by kristy w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What normally happens......When the mothers are being ushered in, they each light one of the candles on either side of the "Unity" candle before the ceremony actually starts. Then at the right time during the ceremony, the bride and groom take the side candles already lit and together they light the center unity candle itself.
2007-02-08 06:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, the parents light the taper candles on the sides. The bride and groom, using those taper candles, light the unity candle itself.
Or, the tapers can be already lit when the ceremony starts. Or just the moms light them.
2007-02-08 07:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋