I really like the guy but his co-workers are real losers and he's like best friends with them. I don't know anything about his real friends but it's scary that he gets along so well these losers. Would you still pursue or should I take it as an indication that he's a loser too?
2007-02-08 06:21:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't judge him based on who his friends are. Judge him on himself alone.
It isn't fair to judge him based on how other people act, because he can't control the way they are.
Just give him a chance, everyone deserves at least that much.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 06:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rainy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person hangs around with losers, she/he is usually a loser too. A person with better self esteem who has goals in life surrounds him/herself with people who are the same. Loser friends will drag you down.
Does this guy have goals? Is he acting on them? Is he seeking promotion through education or hard work? Is he starting a business? Does he have dreams he pursues? If the answer to these questions is no, move along, there is nothing for you here.
2007-02-08 14:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by realst1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is that saying about the sins of the father? You know not judging the son because the dad was such a louse?!! First who the hell do you want the date with, him or his "loser"friends? Secondly, not sure why they are "losers" but rather than be "scared" that he gets along so well, how about thinking WOW he is so cool, he can make friends with anyone!! Besides maybe his friends really aren't losers maybe you just have not had a chance to get to know them!! Good Luck!
2007-02-08 14:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by MB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it as an indication that he is a loser too if these are his best friends. One reason is that it says a lot about his judgment (do you want to date someone with bad judgment and who makes bad choices in life?). Another is that you'll be stuck having these losers in your life if you date this guy.
2007-02-08 14:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by A M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All men that are worth well having hang out with loser friends.
Yes, that's a big factor there. Go get him girl?
Seriously, that's what is called common sense, young people will tell you that don't matter, that's why they are called young people. Good mature thinking there.
2007-02-08 14:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you like the guy then you better give him a chance. It doesn't matter who he hangs out with, he could be a really great guy on the inside and you might just be passing up a chance at a great future with a great guy. Give him a chance and if you dont like who he is--not who he hangs out with--then you can leave him but dont turn him away just because of his friends.
and FYI some losers turn out to be the besy people you will ever have the lucky chance of meeting.
2007-02-08 14:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most of the time you can tell the quality of the man by his surroundings. by using the term "losers" if you mean by economic status I wouldn't consider them losers. However, if they are morally repugnant I would seriously reconsider the ethics of your crush.
2007-02-08 14:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by redheadedemt_1972 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but this kinda makes you sound like a superficial *****. of course you should "pursue" you never know you may like these losers that you know hardly anything about. give it a try. just remember you aren't dating his friends. oh and dont tell him you think they are losers. he will drop you like a bad habit. bros before hos. ( sorry ladies thats just the rhyme scheme, i dont really think all women are hos)
2007-02-08 14:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by flamemaster_lang 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember "Birds of a feather, flock together"...
That being said, you really need to focus on who this guy is as an individual...but if his friends are an issue for you, then I'd look elsewhere..
2007-02-08 14:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Toots 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you see something in the man, then i don't see why not you should go for it. you shouldn't let a group of people and what they're like keep you from pursuing what you want.....
2007-02-08 14:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by g13player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋