my ex and i broke up last april, two weeks later i got with my current bf. Its been impossible for me to still talk to my ex and keep telling myself i dont love him anymore so i stopped talking to him thinking i would stop thinking of him and out of respect for my current bf, who i really do love, but i aparently still love my ex too. he recently contacted me to tell me he understands (finally) that its over and that i wont get back with him and that he really wishes me the best. It was a very genuine and sincere letter and it practically gave me a panic attack to think that he's finally moved on and that it really is final (even though it has been for quite some time). I still think about him way more than i should and maybe i should let him go but i just can't. why can't i? have i been lying to myself trying to be happy with my new bf? unngggghh. any advice?
2007-02-08 06:21:37 · 6 answers · asked by 123456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you have more of an issue than the one that you are just presenting to us. I think that you should look at yourself and try and figure out what you really want period not just those two but period. What in life will make you happy and if you find yourself again at this cross roads first look back on the reason that the relationship didn't work out in the first place. If you think that something has changed to make it so that won't happen again then at that point should you even think of going back to him as a possibility. I also hope that you have talked you your current boyfriend about these feelings that you still have with your ex. I say this because if you don't you will only make the relationship you currently have tainted and damaged. I also think that if you do decide to go back to your old boyfriend that you should take a "brake" from both of them to be sure about how you really feel for both of them. I wish you luck and the biggest ed-vice that I can give you is to be honest with both of them while making your decision
2007-02-08 06:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love your new bf but you also love your ex. Can you remember what the exact reason was the 2 of you broke up anyway. And while you think of that, think of the love you've shared with both men. No love is ever the same. Sometimes in relationships you have to sit down and do a list because trying to figure it all out in your head, will just drive you crazy. List both names and the things you like about each of them. Next to the thing right a number representing how much that quality means to you. And be truthful about it. This isn't about whose cuter or has a better job, dig deep down and find your true feelings. Once you've finished (it's not a fact that you'll finish in 10 minutes either) add those numbers up. Which ever one is the greatest is obviously the one whose company you cherish the most. If it is not your current bf, true it will be hard to tell him, but it's better to tell him, then let him believe something that can only hurt him worse later on down the road.
2007-02-08 14:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal feeling, I it's hard to stop talking to someone that has been there for you to talk to and to actually be told they are moving on really gets to you. I think it's just the feeling that you know you could go back at anytime if needed and now it's not going to be there. Don't panic he just isn't going to be over it one day and move on, I would take some time to think it out and maybe take a break from your boyfriend.
2007-02-08 14:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by padros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he your first bf if yes then it going take you some time to move on
2007-02-08 14:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to see a shrink...
2007-02-08 14:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by soccacrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your Harte will tel you where to go but i think you already know
2007-02-08 14:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by chrisandlindsayjohnston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋