My gf&I have been dating for 3 years.Yesterday she said she was unhappy&board in our relationship.She told me that we come for 2 different paths.She told me she wanted to marry me, now she hasn’t wanted to marry me for awhile saying that she has to push me to do everything.The lifestyle she came from is one of eloquent dinners, bfs w/families that have summer houses& went to college right out of school.That’s not me, I just went back 2 school&my family doesn’t have a lot of $.She seems like she looks at my past¤t situation as what I’m going to be, and not at what I could be.She said in the past she thought I wasn’t attracted to her, she knows now that I was.She said b/c of thinking that, she resentments me&she’s not attracted to me.She has said we spend 2 much time together, but we haven’t spent any more then b4. She just graduated&is working full time, I’m the only one that she interacts with.I said 2 hang out w/ friends&that we would see each other a few days a/wk. Help stay or go?
2007-02-08 06:10:11 · 14 answers · asked by James S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would let her go.. I know its hard to do.. but the second you heard from her that she was unhappy, you should have known the answer to your question already..
If you love someone, you would do anything to make her happy, even though she wont get happiness from you..
2007-02-08 06:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve someone who cares about you the way you seem to care about her. If the only way she'll marry you is if you make alot of money then she isn't right for you. If she is bored then she isn't happy in the relationship. If you really want to be with her though try to change some stuff, go out more, surprise her with things, but if that isn't worth it to you move on cause you sound like a nice guys =) it wouldn't be hard for you to find someone.
2007-02-08 06:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by MissPeteWentz<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like she is going through a change in her life. People usually change right out of high school, then again after college. I'm afraid to say that this is probably the end for you two. Separate now before it gets ugly, at least you may be able to salvage your friendship. Later in life who knows what can happen. Good luck.
2007-02-08 06:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by tHEwISE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give ea other space, a breather. go out and mingle, travel, light dates will help. refresh yourself after being in a 3 yrs relationship. give yourself time to think things over and to asses your feelings as well. its hard to let go of someone youve been together with for 3 yrs or maybe more. but if you feel you're no longer happy and you're bored with how the relationship is going, then let go. it would be painful like all other break-ups, but its just a part of every relationship. it will just pass and eventually you'll find yourself falling in love again. but if you feel that you just need time to be away fr ea other, then talk and give each other space. maybe a couple of months or so, who knows, when you get back together, you'd miss ea other and realize that you really love ea other. ü
2007-02-08 06:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by pea_tsai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are feeling a little disconnected. You spoke of your girlfriend's feelings, her expectations, her disappointments and resentments. You said very little about yourself.
It sounds like your girlfriend wants you to be different from who you are and is realizing that you are who you are, but she wants something else.
You get to decide whether you stay or go, but she gets to decide whether she stays or goes. The only thing holding you two together seems to be codependency.
You can continue to do market research on this relationship if you like, or you can get to know your precious self and meet other like-minded people that are able to see your preciousness and love you for who you are rather than what you can do for them.
Kind regards
2007-02-08 06:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to, take a break from each other for a while, if she says you two come from 2 different paths, & as long as you've known each other, maybe it's best to be good friends, don't throw her out of your life for good.-things may get better in the future.
2007-02-08 06:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go while your still young. then in the years to come she will see what you turned into. definetly take time apart unless you enjoy trying to convince someone on a daily basis to love you. Are you that pathetic?
2007-02-08 06:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and take a little break from her. it seems as though she is confused on what she wants. focus on yourself for a while. if its meant to be then you both will get back together. Good Luck
2007-02-08 06:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by sweetchick21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you change to the guy she was in love with at first? if not, then you should not stay because she will cheat on you eventually or just leave at one point ...better be hurt now and move on than hurt later when it is much harder to move on...
2007-02-08 06:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks you spend too much time together then:
a) give her some space..every girl needs some
b) dump her. if you don't think she likes you, then don't go out with her.
2007-02-08 06:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by bonjourr gigi<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋