2007-02-08 06:01:32 · 13 answers · asked by nola_heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sure hope not or i am screwed.
2007-02-08 06:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men have a policy of not dating women with children. Some men are neutral and think it depends on the woman and child(ren) in question. Some men even like dating women with kids. Its really very individual. My best advice to someone dating who has a child from a previous relationship is to be upfront about having a kid, take things slow and only introduce your child to a partner when the relationship is stable and serious.
I had two kids when I met my second husband, he had none. It was never an issue for us. I also have quite a few friends who had kids and ended up back in the dating pool who have found wonderful men.
2007-02-08 06:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be honest...yeah, they do. It's biological...survival of the species, and what not. Male lions kill off the other males and cubs when they come to power, it drives the females into heat, so that the male can ensure all other males are from his bloodline. While males of our species don't do this, (fortunately) there are some issues about it, and it's foolish to say it's not true. If the guy cares enough about you, then he may be willing to accept it...right up until the time you remind him the child is not his. Get the picture? It's not easy for a guy to overlook your little trophies from previously failed relationships, which also adds up to extra responsibility for him at the onset. Additionally, he has to compete with the kids for your attention, and he'll typically lose every time...not so easy to feel like the conquering hero in that situation, is it? Your ex's name was Mike, your body is the abandoned kingdom of Mikeville, and your little munchkins are the Mikevillians fighting against the new rule of Jim. Jim already has enough problems wooing the disposed queen of Mikeville, without the undermining efforts of the Mikevillian resistance to compound the issue. It's tough. Sure, the kids should come first...it's expected of a mother, but no guy wants to come in dead last, often behind the former sperm donor. Ready-made families are a challenge...anybody that says different is lying to get in your pants.
2007-02-08 06:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by woobinator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, yep. Most of my guy friends would have dated a particular girl had she not had children. It does depend on what he is after. If he's just after a casual #$%@ date then what difference does it make? She's (and the kid's) not going to be in his life for long anyway. But if he has long term plans for his dates, then he doesn't want the extra baggage, especially during the early stages of the relationship when it's supposed to be just about you two getting to know one another, and the first stages of a marriage when it's supposed to be just about you two living together for the first time and going on your honeymoon or other trips all alone. After your relationship has formed a rock solid foundation, then it's natural to want to have kids. But before the guy is ready, kids get in the way of the dream relationship. Yes, we do have dreams about relationships too. We just don't tell anybody.
'Course all men are different. One of my good friends likes girls who have kids. He falls in love with the kids as much as the girl.
Oh, one more thing...
Your spouse should always come first. Not kids. Single Mom (especially those who have financial troubles) tend to look to their kids as inspiration. Their children in essence become like idols to them. Then a new man comes into the picture and she is going to put him first over her children? I don't think so. How do the kid(s) go from idols to children? They're not. A single mom is less likely to order her priorities appropriately when she does marry. God, Spouse, Family, Strangers, Self - That's the healthy way in which we are designed. Putting your spouse above your children gives hope to children and structure to the family. They need to know that you love them of course, but that, when push comes to shove, you will support your spouse. Husband and wife need to be united when they raise their children and if either spouse puts the children above the spouse savvy children can undermine the union.
2007-02-08 06:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't mind to date a woman with a child.My last realtionship I dated a woman with three kids and I did everything I could to be a good father figure.Plus,take them to places that they never been.
2007-02-08 06:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by wahid d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men dont sometimes it depends on how many and if the have been raised right and if there is drama with your baby daddy thats about it but most men dont care as long as you are handling your business and you dont want them to play daddy or take care of your kids financially
2007-02-08 06:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by cuttie1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many men that do, and many that do not. It completely depends on the guy. I know that when I was dating, I would not date women with children.
2007-02-08 06:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some don't. Just depends on the guy. Does it really mater if the two people really care for each other.
2007-02-08 06:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. Most don't mind. Just say upfront that you have children and they'll usually tell you whether they like kids or not.
2007-02-08 06:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
likely no i dont mind
2007-02-08 06:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Edward H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..
and it does matter how does she feel towards her child , and how does she treat him ..
2007-02-08 06:07:09 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋