We were invited to the couple shower where we gave a gift and now the weddning is coming up....is it proper to give another gift or is the gift for the couple shower all that has to be given?
2007-02-08 05:51:25 · 14 answers · asked by cphill7406 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm surprised at the answers I've seen here. I've worked hundreds of weddings over the years and I would never have guessed so many people would have answered that two gifts were necessary. Usually, if you take a gift to the shower, a card is appropriate at the wedding. It is presumptuous and rude for a person to expect two gifts for the same occasion. People generally take gifts to the wedding because it is the first opportunity they have to give a gift but if you take a gift to a bridal shower, a separate wedding gift, while generous, is not necessary. If you feel awkward going to the wedding without a gift and feel you must buy two, give something small and personal at the shower and a more typical wedding gift at the wedding but two gifts are not necessary.
2007-02-08 17:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gift-giving is voluntary. However, if the gift you gave at the couple shower was from their registry, I'd say that's enough.
If you do have a gift for the wedding, a nice thing to do is have it sent to their home instead, so they don't have the hassle of packing up all the gifts.
2007-02-08 13:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the shower is one gift and the wedding is a separate gift. You have up to 1 year after the wedding to give the wedding gift, however most people give it immediately preceeding the wedding, at the wedding, or within a month after the wedding.
2007-02-08 13:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gave a gift at the shower that was on the couple's registry, then you don't need to bring one to the wedding. If you gave a gift at the shower that was specifically for the bride-to-be, then you need to give a gift they can use as a couple.
2007-02-08 13:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rachael 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being invited anywhere does not automatically mean you must give a gift.
Gift giving is voluntary.
So you can give a small gift at the shower and a larger gift at the wedding...or a large gift at the shower or a small gift at the wedding....or not gift at all.
2007-02-08 13:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
American culture lacks etiquette for weddings. Most weddings I've been to in this country are really cheap. Part of the reason is people give modicum amounts of cash as a gift. I've been to one where the brother in law and wife collectively contributed $100 as a gift. Spanish, Jewish, and Italian weddings I've been to are much different. They are not cheap weddings and people tend to give a bare minimum of $150 a head. The newlyweds usually make a profit in these weddings. Most couples in this country go broke in a wedding because guests are cheap.
2007-02-08 15:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by sirtitan45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people give a gift at the shower, and cash (or a check) at the actual wedding.
2007-02-08 14:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you have to give a gift for the shower and for the wedding.
2007-02-08 13:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Moosey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you, but you have to give another gift. The shower gift is usually less expensive than the wedding gift.
2007-02-08 13:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
usually if you are invited to the shower and accept, you give a gift. Then you also give a gift at the wedding if you attend.
2007-02-08 13:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lepke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋