I am currently living with my dad who is gay and has a boyfriend who lives with us and im cool with it i accept my dad and there for him BUT there is 1 prob . I get along with his boyfriend really well we are cool and friends and i dont think my dad likes that too much . He sometimes gives me a hard time about it . I know what the right thing is to do and thats to be fare to my dad and move out the only place i can think of is my moms in Texas but i hate it there. Everything i have is because of my dad and im very grateful for it. I have been looking around miami for a apartment and its been hard its very expensive here. The main thing is i feel if i move i will lose everything i have here. My job , my space, my car , having fun with my dad . I know that one day i will have to face this and move out but i feel im not ready im scared . I was hoping there can be a way to still live with my dad but give him his space too . Whatcha think ?
2007-02-08 05:42:51 · 17 answers · asked by I_luv_my_kids<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sounds like you have a good thing going, why not talk to your dad, show him this question, find out why he wouldn't be happy that you get along with his mate? I'm sure there's some miscommunication here, clear it up and you'll feel much better. Good luck!
2007-02-08 05:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make sense that your father is bothered by your friendship with his partner. Were I a homosexual person with children, I would be ecstatic that my child accepted my significant other.
With that being said, I'm sure you are a very perceptive person and there most be tension between you and your dad, but not for the reasons you think. Are you contributing to the rent and the rest of the household? Do you clean up after yourself? Are you spending too much time in the common areas? Are you tagging along when they may want alone time? These may be some questions you might want to ask yourself and/or your father. Hope this helps.
2007-02-08 05:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by wendy_the_pyro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen- you say you're scared to move out but you know you have to do it someday. Well when that day comes you'll still be scared. You will never be ready to leave while you are there. You'll still be frightened. So that is no excuse. If you can't find an apartement in Miami because they're to expensive you have 2 options. Look for a better paying job so you CAN afford it. Or look for an apartement in a city/ town NEAR Miami.
2007-02-08 05:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your Dad was confident in his relationship with his partner this wouldn't even be an issue. Your his daughter, he should trust you. His partner, too, is GAY therefore it's not like he would put a move on you and he's probably way too old for you anyway. Sounds like you and your Dad need to sit down and have a good heart to heart and try to get some priorities straight. Good Luck!
2007-02-08 05:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its to bad that your dad is jealous of you and his bf I would think that he wold like the fact that you guys get along so well. I would just try to talk to your dad and let him know that you are not trying to step on his toes and you don't like his bf more than him. You have a job so I guess you could get involved in the community more to be out of the house to give them there free time. And if worse comes to worse and you have to move out it will be o.k you might even like that more. and if you have to move to Texas that will be o.k. to you will find a new job and new friends I think it will all work out for you just try and talk to your dad and see what you guys can come up with to make life better for both of you
2007-02-08 05:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
General happiness is pretty much everyone's goal. And I think a talk with your dad has to be the first step. Let him know your concerns, about his jealousy (you gotta be completely honest here) and your worries about the direction your life will take. And however important it is for everyone to set out on their own, it's also important that you hold on to what's important to you, and to survive. After talking with your father, he may have suggestions on what to do next. Hope I was helpful and good luck.
2007-02-08 06:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your dad about this. have a nice conversation with him and be understanding. have him get all his feelings out and then work around them. but let him know what you've been thinking too, about moving out and how you want to give him space. if you guys talk and come to a compromise, you'll be able to work things out together. if he doesn't like you hanging around his boyfriend, try not to do it so much. go out with your own friends, thereby giving them some space. your dad might eventually loosen up a little. who knows? but DEFINITELY communicate. express your feelings. but don't point any fingers. and you shouldn't have to move if you don't want to. i hope this helped.
2007-02-08 05:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by PennyLoves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your dad. He should be glad you all get along. Often the next relationship someone is in can be very stressful as the child often acts out. I would suggest staying where you are and continue to work and get out on your own.
2007-02-08 05:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with your father and talk to him, let him know that you are just friends with his mate nothing more, but in the mean time I think it is time to test those wings and get out of the nest. You're going to have to do this sometime it shouldn't be because you have to but because you want to be a independent person.
2007-02-08 05:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live in Miami so go out more often. Let your Dad have some chill time w/ his partner. Perhaps work some more hours to save to move out. Go meet new people. Have fun!
2007-02-08 05:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jen of Eve 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋