I met this guy on Yahoo! Answers and we have been talking for a while. We have been talking a lot. We have never met each other but we are talking about it. Im fifteen years old and he is fourteen years older than me. I don't really care when i tell him i love him and he tells me that a lot too. He doesn't have anyone and he sometimes say things like, that i would make a good wife and that it is maybe meant to be. He wishes he was there for me to take care of me and stuff like that. He sometimes has thoughts about me too. I have the same about him and i don't mind him saying those things. He treats me with respect and all and i do the same. But at times i think how weird this is and how embarrassing it is. Is it really embarrassing and if im going to be 18 and he isn't going to have anyone, is there a chance that our online romance is going to work?
All help is welcome. Thank you.
2007-02-08 05:35:42 · 20 answers · asked by Haha that's funny! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But i trust him so much. He trusts me too. It took a while for me to trust him. He told me he had another internet romance but it didn't work out. I believe it's him being honest.
2007-02-08 05:39:39 · update #1
He told me we should meet when im 18. I agree with him. But doesn't it show he makes sense?
2007-02-08 05:46:52 · update #2
We have been talking for six months and we tried to stop. But it didn't work out because i thought it would be harmless and that he would become boring i no time. In December he told me he loved me.
2007-02-08 05:49:34 · update #3
Don't fool yourself into thinking you are in love with him. You can never, ever fully trust someone that you've never met and only talk to on the internet. You are just a child whether you like it or not and he is an adult who should know better than to lead someone of your age and innocence into an online romance. He is the disgusting one. Not you - you have just been misled by a paedophilic person. I really, really urge you not to meet up with him, in fact I beg you not to meet up with him because it's so dangerous. The fact that you are questioning yourself about the situation shows that you have doubts about your 'trust' in him. It probably sounds like I'm being patronising towards you but I'm only 16 myself and I don't want you to feel patronised, I just want you to be aware that this man could well be a paedophile. It may feel nice that you feel wanted by someone but God only knows what this man's intentions are - he is sick in the head for chasing after a 15 year old girl.
2007-02-08 05:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong with this guy! I'm not being disrespectful to you at all, seriously he's a grown man spending his time chatting up a 15 year old on line - it's all just words on a screen. A big age gap in a relationship is not such a big deal when you're say...35 and he's 49, but 15 and 29 is not good - it's illegal. Don't pursue it any further, what happens next?
2007-02-08 05:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by zweebob 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your 15 , he is 29.
Its not illegal for you to talk to him, unless he starts getting explicitly sexual.
It is not a good idea however. He may be playing games and trying to get you to do what he wants , just a little bit at a time.
You think its a bit wierd and embarrasing, so you realize that something is not quite right.
At 15 you are unlikely to have the experiance to deal with this sort of situation.
This is a situation where I think , you need to tell him you cant talk with him anymore.
***** Be sure to tell one of your parents about it. *****
***** Do NOT give him your address ***
***** Do NOT meet him anywhere *******
It is possible that hes a nice guy and a long term relationship is possible, but I think it unlikely. By the time you are 18 you will have chances with guys your own age , and with similar interests.
2007-02-08 06:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by mark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the fact that you think it's weird - it's illegal. You're 15 and he's 29. If you ask me he needs locking up. Don't go near this man you could be in serious danger. He's hitting you with all the sweet nothings that you want to hear but when you meet him it'll probably be a different story. Most of the time the fantasy is better than the reality. Don't you watch the news?
2007-02-08 05:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by donna o 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
OK I stopped reading it at the point you said I am 15 and he is 14 years older than me
One word Paedophile!!!!!! Also very very very Illegal!!!
Oh I wouldn't listen to Jenn she can't even spell paedophile so prob doesn't even know what it means at your age 14 years is too much if you were 20 then that would be different but you are a child (CHILD) and not an adult this man should not be interested in a CHILD it is wrong in sooooo many ways
2007-02-08 06:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
neither of u are disgusting & no its not embarrasing 2 be in love with someone way older than u i know how it feels, its like its wrong some way but u really couldnt care because of the way u feel. If u and him want it 2 work then it'll work.
Age is only a number dont let it hold u back from what u want to do.
Hope this helps, & good luck with him
And ignore anyone that says this guys trying 2 abduct u or that he's a peodophyll not everyone on the internet is like that.
2007-02-08 05:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is so easy to get carried away with your fingers and type out all the correct words - totally different in real life. Plus the fact that this chap (for want of a better word) is more wordly experienced than you so has a better chance of sounding right all the time. You will then re-act by answering his;'thought out speech'. He cannot possibly be a good guy because he has no right approaching you personally - change your settings and please tell your folks, he is bang out of order.
2007-02-08 05:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly how these type of people work.
If you can't bring yourself to report him to the Police, trust your parents. When he asks to meet, get your Mum or dad to take you.
At 15 the law is there not because you can't think for yourself, or because you don't have any common sense, or because you are 'too young' to understand. It is there because these manipulators are very dangerous. This individual could any age from 29 to 79. They could be trying to abduct you and if you meet them alone you are in terrible danger.
Tell your parents or the police today, don't hesitate.
2007-02-08 05:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by noeusuperstate 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you know for sure he isn't some psycho grooming you online?
Definately dangerous waters here, if he knows you're vulnerable then its easy for him to tell you all the things a fifteen year old girl wants to hear.
Everyone wants to be wanted, but try to be smart about this one. You're only fifteen, you've got plenty of time to meet someone for real.
2007-02-08 05:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by LondonGRL 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep away! 14 years is a big gap. The mans grown up and you need to do that first or you will regret not doing and learning what normal 15 yr old do.
2007-02-08 06:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Harbo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋