parents & me?

Question

i always have verble fights with my parents...is there anyway to make me and better person and prevent this from happening? please help thanks!

Answer 1

i would thinmk before speaking and try to determine what you are realy mad about try to communicate better this helps and if you need to vent to someon send me an email

Answer 2

Verbal fights are a natural part of growing up. You want to be treated more like an adult, and your parents still see you as more of a child. Having been on both sides of the equation, I can give a few tips.

As you get older, your eyes really start to open, and you see that your parents have faults. The natural reaction to this is anger. Once you realize that it's part of being human, that helps. Don't expect your parents to be perfect.

Even though it seems like they expect you to be perfect, they really don't. As their kids get older, parents want to give them more responsibility (i.e. chores, duties, etc.). The natural inclination is to resent this. However, this prepares you for life on your own. Some day you will be in charge, and you need to get used to handling more responsibility.

Do you use the same tricks that used to get you by when you were younger? As you get older, parents are less tolerant of the same old stuff.

How's your poker face? Do you let out an audible sigh and roll your eyes when your parents ask you to do something? They notice that, and it gets you a negative score on the attitude scale.

If you disagree about something and need to confront your parents, a shouting match or hissy fit is not the way to do it. You can actually have a fight without having a fight. There are rules for "fair fighting".Try to find your parents in a calm mood, then ask to talk with them. State your case logically and calmly, and LISTEN to their response. Sometimes it's not the answer you want, but remember your poker face. Calmly state that you disagree, but will respect their decision. If someone gets angry in the middle of this, it's OK to call time and retreat to another room until later. Never call names or belittle anyone.

All of this will not only score some points with your parents, but will actually help you to become a better person.

Answer 3

Most teenagers do not have the same point of view as their parents and it's normal for this to happen. Listen to them, think about what they are telling you so you understand why they think the way they do before you lash out because you don't agree with them. Take the time to see things from their end.

Answer 4

i wouldn't say at all that you need to be a better person its just that you and your parents are different people from different generations with different ideas. because of this disagreements are absolutely going to happen. this is not such a bad thing just don't let them turn into arguments. as soon as a disagreement gets to the point where it is about to transition into an argument remove your reaction and replace it with logic. you or your parents may be right you just have to have an open mind to figure it out sometimes.

Answer 5

Listen without interrupting and let your parent finish talking. And then tell them that you'll do better next time, don't get defensive about it say it calmly. Remember one day you have children and they are going to act the same way. You are telling yourself that you are not going to be like your parents, but you know what you are in most ways, because I said the same thing and now I'm in my 40 and I'm just like my mom who I didn't want to be, but now I understand her wisdom.

Answer 6

UMMMM...no....the reason is that it takes two people (at least) to argue...so the ONLY way that you would avoid arguments is to do exactly what your parents say...not something that is easily done (depending on your age)...and doing so would diminish who YOU are....That being said..maybe you can stop and try to understand what your parents are trying to communicate with you (although they aren't doing a very good job of it)... instead of arguing with them..try calmly telling them why you are doing what you are doing and then ask them why they think their way is better.you might actually come to see that they are trying to make your life easier (us old people have a wealth of experience with a lot of stupid things we did in our youth that really didn't work out)..the trick is to keep it conversational, non-confrontational, and most of all constructive... Good luck

Answer 7

walk away from the fight, then write down in a journal how you feel, and give yourself a few hours before speaking to them about it. If you're like me you feel bad about what you say afterward, and it's hard to take it back. So hope this helps

Answer 8

What is the source of conflict? All of you have to compromise on that, if possible. If it's chores, grades, dress code, friends, activities, allowance, whatever, you have to compromise. Sometimes parents are inflexible because of safety issues, but see if there are any issues you can compromise on, or work to earn more privilege gradually.

Answer 9

You just have to remember to keep your mind open and remember that most parents don't want to ruin they're kids lives. Hear what they have to say and say what's on your mind, but remember to say it in a calm tone. Also remember that not everything is gonna go your way all the time.

Answer 10

Well lets see you have many options i guess you could still speak your mind and be reapectful try to get them to see your point of view...just sit down and talk to them about yalls relationship see if it works usually adults like when you act serious like them just ask them to understand you and dont yell okay trust me....been there done that.....

Answer 11

ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS: Your parents have your best interest in mind! When you get older, you will understand this. They love you more than anyone else in the world could ever love you and it's unconditional love. Trust me, they just don't want to see you screw up!!