Im 22 yrs old and i hate to admit but i still live with my dad its not so bad until he interferes with my love life , My dad is gay and i have aceppt that its cool with me no matter what he is still a good dad to me , until i come to find out that he has a crush on the guy i like . Crazy i know ! I never thought that i would have to go though this with my own dad but i am . The guy i like doesnt know about this i dont want to freak him out and i dont want him out of my life because of my dad so i fight with my dad about it and it has got to the point to where i cant live with him anymore but i dont want this to happen because if i move ill lose everything plus the guy i truley care about... i dunno what to do.
2007-02-08 05:20:17 · 15 answers · asked by Heaven <3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel as if he is tryin to make me un-happy because he's not happy .
2007-02-08 05:21:04 · update #1
Many times parents don't realize how unhappy they are until they see their children happy. Then they plot to make them unhappy. "Misery loves company."
your Dad has bene there and now it may be time to get out on your own. There comes a time when we need to let go of the apron strings. If he's pulling you down, or interfering in your romantic relationships, get out and be happy.
2007-02-08 05:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Insurance Biz CT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You have a lot of issues to examine. Living with Dad at 22 is fine as long as you are contributing to the household or going to school full time. If you're just living there as a freeloader, you may want to look at your life, at the age of 22 and work on building a life of production and contribution.
Dad being gay is really a very small factor if it's a factor at all. He's alive, he obviously loves you if he still has you in his house and his apparent honesty about his life shows that he's probably a pretty healthy, happy guy. My dad is dead. Enjoy your Dad while you can. Dead lasts a long time.
Dad having the hots for your boyfriend is a little weird. Primarily, that he's not putting your needs before his is a bit concerning. He's your Dad, after all. And children, even 22 year old children and their needs should come before his. That's part of parenting. If your Dad is challenging your relationship because he wants your boyfriend....well, that's not very healthy parenting. If that's the case, leaving may be a very good idea.
But, it sounds like you're just using Dad as a way to keep your life overly easy. And, if you truly care about the guy, honesty usually works fairly well. Maybe you should try life on your own two feet, tell the guy the truth and remind your Dad that stealing your child's boyfriend is pretty low on the parenting scale.
BTW, why will you lose everything if you move out. Haven't you been preparing for living on your own for a while?
2007-02-08 05:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's an odd one. a parent being attracted to your significant other is one thing.... them not being able to control that so much it impacts you is another. do a little reflection:
is your dad really getting in the way, or are you just uncomfortable with what might be normal, controlled attraction?
if your dad is really unable to separate from his feelings towards this guy in favor of his feelings for you, then your dad has issues, and you should move out. your dad may love you, but it is not a healthy place for you to be... no matter how convenient.
if you are just weirded out because your dad thinks the guy is hot, then maybe you are over-reacting...
i can't say for sure. all i know is a condensed version of one side of the story.
2007-02-08 05:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control your dad's feelings...just don't fight anymore and ask him if he loves your bf..I don't think he will have the guts to tell you this, especially in front of your bf! and try getting a job or do some great efforts and try to move together with your bf...it's the only option. You still have to do it sooner or later.
2007-02-08 05:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by teen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with liking her. You aren't related by blood. If you're uncle broke up with his g/f, would your friend feel the same way? Technically, she isn't even your cousin until they get married, and, even then, she won't be related by blood. If you like her and she likes you, I'd say go for it! Good Luck!
2016-03-28 22:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Janet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to move out. I know you don't want to "lose everything" as you put it, but what is everything? Things that you can't get for yourself or don't want to buy for yourself. You won't have to worry about your dad when you're in your own place.
2007-02-08 05:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW! If he is coming in between you and your love life...no telling what else he'll butt into! I think it's time to save up and get your own place so you can have some privacy..AND stop bringing that friend over!
2007-02-08 05:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, every one give this story a star....aaawww man, this is some jerry springer stuff ...man, i dont even know what to say...the only thing i can think of, keep it real with your boyfriend, and tell him, so he can reject your dad, then hopefully you can stay where your at....wow..this should work..he shouldnt want some one who doesnt want him...man.. keep in touch, i want to know how this turns out...wow..e-mail me
best answer, real answer!!
2007-02-08 05:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by drjayz_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move out.
2007-02-08 05:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out
2007-02-08 05:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋