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Well cupid missed it's target and well if it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't. She stopped calling and did not return my calls, I thought about our previous dates trying to remember what I may have said or done to have her stop contacting me and I was not able to think of any bad things other than the fact that I have kids and worked kinda late sometimes, other than that we got along pretty well I thought. My question to you is this, I put some thought into the valentines gift for her, now should I still give it to her? For me it is the principle, it was for her. Your thoughts.

Phillip

2007-02-08 05:10:37 · 24 answers · asked by Phillip M 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

24 answers

That would be very sweet but she doesn't sound like a very sweet person! She should have at least given you a reason for not being interested! Maybe you should return the gift or save it for someone more deserving!

2007-02-08 05:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

If a women has thrown you out of her life it is either she used you for what she wanted and has moved on or B she could not handle trying to juggle a relationship with you and the kids. For a single women to get into a relationship with a man who has kids and she doesn't she won't ride the gravy train long before her buiscut heads for someone else's jelly if you get me.
If she's done with you be happy just to let it be done, return the gift if possible or give it to your mother as a thoughtful gift if appropriate and make the kids valentines day by doing something special with them and forget about the what could have beens.

2007-02-08 13:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Emily M 3 · 0 0

I know your sad it didnt work out, and being alone on valentines day sucks (i know lol)...and also that you may still think of her in nice terms since it kinda just fizzled out with her not calling as oppose to being a big argument or sumthin but personally i think for your own sake you shud take the hint for whtever reasons she doesnt seem to want the relationship and not give her the gift. If shes er not returning calls and bever getting bck to u or letting on in any forms it doesnts seem like she wants tp continue and if you havent done anythin id be kinda hurt, she should have at least have explained herself rather than just ignoring you so i really dont think you should give her the gift shes actually being kinda unfair to you. Sumtimes there does seem to be no specific reason.... ppl are unknowable im coming to find, you can never guess why sumone suddenly starts asking a certain way if they arent open tio telling you.....could be anything at all!!! But as i said i do feel a person shud at least make her intentions not to see you again clear and then amybe u cud end as friends....even if she wasnt being completly honest with her reasons, but to just not return calls is kinda callous behaviour, Trust me she doesnt deserve a well thought out gift... spend time with ure kids on valentines day, buy them sumthin nice, and look to the future and a new relationship. I know the gift was picked precisely for her but she no longer is to u wht she was before, even if u still like her at the mo, shes shown herslef to be sumthin else thn she was when u bought it so move on, giving her the gift is like saying u cant move on when she seems to be. Valentines day is one day, and its fallen at an unfortunate time for u, but just ignore the day, and either do sumthin else with the present, take it bck of just write it off as a mistake... ure only probs feeling so much like u shud give her the gift cos u still like her, its hard when its the other person ending it and u dont want to, ul feel more hurt thn angry BUT in time ul see tht the way she has acted isnt exactly nice and feel glad u kept you respect and didnt give a woman whos behaving less thn nicely towards u a well picked out gift, when shes moving on.

You sound like a nice guy putting lots of effort into choosing the gift and youl find sumone who deserves u soon enough im sure! take care

2007-02-08 13:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by claire007 3 · 1 0

No, you'd be giving her the gift for you, not for her. She's obviously not interested in you, for whatever reason, which may have nothing to do with you. So giving her a gift would satisfy YOUR sense of what is right, but would put unfair pressure on HER sense of right (ie, it's not right to accept gifts from people you're not interested in, by accepting it she feels she owes you another chance, etc).
If you really want to be the bigger person, just let her go, and gift the gift to someone who won't have to worry about the meaning behind it.

2007-02-08 13:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1 0

If your girlfriend had to do most of the "contacting" then she probably figured you were not that into her.. However, if this is not the case, then you must just accept that she is not interested in you any more. The gift is a tough call. If you give it to her you should do it knowing it will not change anything. If you can accept this and still want to give it to her, then go ahead.(unless., of course, it is some sexy apparel)

2007-02-08 13:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mary M 1 · 0 0

I Philip, it all depends if she said or not that she didn't want to be with you, and what kind of explanation she gave you.

The best is for you to let go, insisting a lot is not going to help at all. But if you did not insist with her before, then it's OK for a Valentine gift.

It all depends on the situation! Need more details!

When someone keeps insisting to much, they are selfish and start making a fool of themselves with no self-respect at all.

I say this because I know a guy that insisted with a girl for more than 2 years, and still didn't stop. crazy! right?

2007-02-08 13:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by fontes 2 · 0 0

it depends on how long it has been since the last time you and her talked are we talking weeks or a couple of days? If she is not speaking to you I would not give her anything. but at least try to contact her and ask what you did to push her away. valentines day is in 1 week there is still time find out why she is pissed.

2007-02-08 13:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by whynot 4 · 0 0

I'd say give it one more try. She might have a legitimate reason for not calling. If she hasn't flat out told you she's no longer interested, and she hasn't filed a restraining order (j/k) then why not?

Be careful with your heart, though...if you give the gift, please make sure there are no strings attached. Her accepting it may not mean as much to her as your giving it means to you.

2007-02-08 13:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by not yet 7 · 0 0

To me it just sounds like you were an honest, working man but woman these days I find want the power. Sorry, but woman are power-hungry s1uts !
I am writing a paper and it shows.women are more likely to cheat, file for divorce, and forget about family and work hard for money ! (if you want I can send you my paper, only a page long).
The woman you're dealing with sounds selfish, and I wouldn't give her the gift. Find a date for your self on V-Day and give your date the gift !

2007-02-08 13:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lauran B. 4 · 0 1

I would think yes. If it was for this person, yeah, because if you give it to another person they'll find out it was meant for her, but then again it can get that person jealous mad. But mostly, sounds like you didn't have it in you for her to ignore you, buck up man!

2007-02-08 13:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by smoke_frm_apple 2 · 0 0

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