Have you ever had a stalker,?

Question

and if yes, how did you get rid of him? If the police is doing nothing?

Answer 1

yes..about 10 years ago. It is such a creepy feeling. This guy I met at work (he was a customer) would come into the office a few times a week & sit for an hour just talking while I worked. After a time, I would see him around town at different places but he would not talk to me or get close enough to even say hello. This went on for over a year. The police couldn't do anything because he wasn't causing me bodily harm. Emotional or mental harm doesn't count apparently.
I finally just told the guy that I had a friend who was a cop & I told him what he was doing. The cop friend told me to tell you that if you don't back off, he will track you down. (there was no such conversation with a cop, but...) I never saw him again. I wished I'd thought of it earlier.

It's worth a try...if it doesn't work you're not out anything.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Imperative Step Number One: Find an ally. Do not deal with this potentially dangerous situation by yourself. You must tell your parents or another trusted adult or friend immediately.

Pay attention, to the stalker - and to yourself. Never ignore the first signs of stalking. You have a creepy feeling about someone? Sit up and take notice. Always, always trust your instincts. It beats someday saying, "I knew there was something wrong...I wish I'd paid attention."

Talk to the police. Don't put it off. The longer the behavior continues, the harder it may be to stop because the stalker may have become more obsessive. No one can accurately predict if a stalker will actually become violent. A confrontation with a police officer stops most stalkers.

Document thoroughly. Write down all of the stalker's behavior in detail. Keep answering machine tapes, letters, e-mails, gifts, photos, etc.

Consider a restraining order. Although some experts believe a restraining order will make a bad situation worse, a restraining order gives notice, which is essential for legal action. It will frequently stop the offending behavior.

Answer 3

Yes, I had one, and it was scary.

I met him when I was working an evening job waitressing in a restaurant during my junior year in high school. He seemed pretty charming at first, and I agreed to go out on a date with him. The date went ok, so I agreed to a second one. The second one he had promised to take me to dinner and a movie, but when he picked me up he took me to a dark park instead. He wanted a little more than I was willing to give. Long story short, he slapped me when I said no, and I took off out of the car and ran home. I didn't tell my parents what happened at this point.

He began to call my house at least 5 times an hour, all hours of the night and day. Some messages were of him begging for another "chance" and others were threatening. One in particular I saved for the police - was of him saying he would snatch me when I was leaving from my job and kill me, stating "if I can't have you, no one will." He also left endless messages and sent flowers everyday for weeks to my school and work. He also would sleep in his parked car by my house some nights. I was totally freaked out when one of the threatening messages said "look out your window," and there he was.

I finally told my parents about everything, and they got a restraining order. He was arrested two weeks later for verbally abusing me in front of everyone at work. He only spent like one night in jail and they let him go. I guess he learned his lesson though, he sent one last batch of flowers to my school apologizing with a "dear jane" letter stating about how I "broke his heart" so he was moving to another city. The madness finally stopped, and I haven't heard from him again. Thank god, it's been 11 years.

Sometimes I felt bad, because I felt like I brought it on by going on 2 dates with him. But, the truth is, he was mentally unstable and it wasn't my fault. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like it's your fault for their insanity.

Answer 4

I did but the kid was like only a softmore when i was a junior so it was like no big deal but he just finally got tierd of following me so he stoped 1 day.
But if your stalker isnt Id segest ingnore them and they hopfully will get bored and go away.

Answer 5

Go out on a date with him, and act all crazy....

If you came on to him all strong he'd probably run off...

Answer 6

i dont know but the police have been stalking me for years. its a conspiracy.....

Answer 7

No, unless my cats count...

Answer 8

My dad was that was why i had to RUNAWAY!!