My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months already. We truly love each other, however, I am scheduled to migrate to the US this coming July while he stays here (in the Philippines) to work. We are both confused on what to do with the relationship since we are both young and have a lot of plans as far as our careers are concerned. He is entertaining the idea of following me to the US, but at the same time, he also fears that he might end up not liking American life and return to the Philippines - leaving the both of us more miserable. For this, we are opening up to the possibility of ending the relationship by the time I leave for the US. I honestly do not know what to do since there is not an assurance that we would again cross paths unless one of us make the great leap to move to the other country. I love him so much and hate the fact that we would eventually have to end the relationship because of that reason.I honestly don't know what to do at this point. Im clueless. Help
2007-02-08 04:53:12 · 12 answers · asked by pinai_nurse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard to have a long distance relationship, but honey any thing worth living for in this life is worth taking a risk, I say go for it, remember what they say: "It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all."
2007-02-08 04:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he go back just prepare yourself emotionally and let the relationship go. If it is better to end the relationship before you leave than allow it to happen. It will be hard but in time you will be ok. Hopefully he will like it and stay and things will be fine but long distance relationships rarely work unless you can somehow see each other on a regular basis.
2007-02-08 05:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Morality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would risk it, i had a bf leave for a long period of time but we still stayed together, an effort has to be made on both parts. Call each other a lot,visit each other a lot, write e-mails. Also your boyfriend should come to the US and see if he likes it, stay a few weeks.
2007-02-08 04:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating, relationship no longer working, relationship ending on a foul term. a protracted distance relationship is a huge believe concern and has a huge risk of failing, besides the indisputable fact that it may paintings, stable success in case you're in one.
2016-09-28 14:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is going to be filled with many tough choices and this is one. There is no simple solution because the chances of the relationship surviving are slim. But you have made your choice and he has made his. If one of you changes your mind, you can continue the relationship.
Now, that said, you certainly can continue to write etc. and keep the link alive for a new time when things might change.
2007-02-08 04:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i had a long distance relation but i knew i was going to be with him in a short period of time... if u r not sure he is coming.. or if he is not sooo enthusiastic about following u here... then i think u should go separates ways.. in a nice way.. that way u stay as friends not enemies
2007-02-08 04:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Maniaka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try. If you love each other it's worth a shot.
2007-02-08 04:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by E V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how far u are if u love each other it will work but there has to be ALOT ALOT of trust
2007-02-08 04:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so,its so useless like me i've been there the long time you havent seen him the lesser you love you have.
2007-02-08 05:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him try it out. if he doesnt like US then u can end it and find someone else. but if he isnt willing to try now he wont try later.
2007-02-08 04:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋