he wants to be committed, he is a very nice person who cares alot about his girlfriend, loves her to death but once she is away (usa) he start having sex with others. he said he really want ts stop but it is very hard for him. he does not love the ones he sleeps with. he always tell her when he does it not proudly he also cries about it saying he wants to changed his way because he do not like hurting her.
2007-02-08 04:48:26 · 25 answers · asked by problem4child 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off does your friend know what he is doing? I can not say that he obviously does not love her as there are nympho's that truly have a problem and can not get enough sex and do not care where they get it from. However, his girlfriend should know and has a decision to make. She should suggest counseling if she loves him enough to give him a second chance, however, I doubt that will be the outcome, she will always live in fear that when she is gone he will be cheating. Does he not realize the danger of having sex with many partners? This is disrespect full to her. I could say more, but truly, I think this guy wants his cake and eat it too, he knows what he is doing, i personally would dump him.
2007-02-08 04:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really means it, he would just stop. Period. But obviously, there is a problem cause he keeps on having sex around with everybody. Unless he has a medical condition, he must stop now, or loose the girlfriend, cause that is what is going to happen at the end.
If he has any kind of medical problem, then a shrink will be needed I would say, but then is up to his girlfriend to decide if to stay with him or not.
2007-02-08 04:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be hard, since she is in the US and cant exactly fly back at any given moment. Tell him that if he loved her enough, he would keep it in his pants. Tell him to think about diseases and if he really loved her (and respected himself, as well) he would not stick his 'thing' in every girl that he sees. ALSO, if he does this when she is away, what reason is there to believe that he DOESNT do it when she is around? Crying can only go so far. He needs to shape up, or ship the **** out
2007-02-08 04:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for her to move on. If this guy was committed he would not commit such acts. I can understand forgiving him the first or second, maybe even third. But sometimes a break up and such will sink in deep and might get him to change. If not then she should move on and be glad.
2007-02-08 04:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to find someone that is going to respect her when she is in and out of town,someone faithful,honest,mature with a good head on his shoulders and sane...not because he cries and cries and tells her he wants to stop means he is telling the truth...he's a fake and a liar...she doesn't have to deal with him any longer if she doesn't want to....if she is not part of the solution she is part of the problem...and that's it....good luck.
2007-02-08 05:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to seek counceling NOW. He may be oversexed. Specially with all the diseases that are out there! No, condoms are not 100% safe either! He can also get a lady pregnant!
2007-02-08 04:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by LadyL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question should be, how much to you respect yourself and get a doctors visit. Your the fall back relationship and the cake. smarten up get out.
If he is a nice guy, then the next on will be nicer.
2007-02-08 05:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bernadine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is obviously the f ****** of first rate .the girl is either a fool of first order or does not intend to have a permanent relationship with the fellow.Therefore ,she just carries on till she finds some one just right for her.or she is also doing the same to him without attendant melodrama.
2007-02-08 04:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should go with her when she travels outside of the country then, or invest in some good porn to help him get by. If those 2 aren't valid options for him then he needs therapy for his mental condition because its not physical.
2007-02-08 04:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by beavanjb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, hes not gonna stop cheating, and maybe he has to learn the hard way, and find out that his actions have consequences. he cant just sleep around and expect to be in a 'committed relationships'
2007-02-08 04:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by littlehey5 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋