Here it is... My Fiance & I have been dating for over a year now. All of a sudden he doesn't want to hang out with me as often, im lucky if I get one or two days a week. This is really bothering me! Is he cheating? Does he want to break up with me? He said he doesn't, but the way he acts is sending off a different message! What should I do. Also, he doesn't do anything for Valentine's day, and I want to do something! Please Help~!
2007-02-08 04:43:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry, but it sounds like he is cheating on you. and i hate that for you cause im goin through the samething right now. and it sucks. but he was always suppose to spend time with me and last night he got high and drunk and came out with the truth. That he had another gf and that he had been with her for a long time and that they were having a kid and all this stuff. I blocked him from my mind and i don't wish to see him again. he keeps saying his coming up here and all this and he never shows or says that he has something planned for us and something else happens. And i finally got him to confess last night. to the whole truth
2007-02-08 04:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is not your "fiance" unless you have a ring on your finger and a date set. Second of all.. this is how guys are. Once they are getting their weekly quota of sex they take you for granite (is that the right spelling?) and get on with the rest of their life, content knowing you will be there for them when "the need" arises. He has the best of all worlds. It sounds to me that you have no mutual goals, I bet not even a wedding date. He is just playing you honey. No he does not want to break up because he is getting exactly what he needs from you and breaking up would mean he would have to find another gullible chick. Nothing is going to happen Valentine's day, unless you plan it and pay for it.. cause he is not into you that way.
2007-02-08 12:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your the one putting the effort into this relationship...he is your boyfriend not your husband(I might add that even then I would not expect such behaviour). Makes me wonder especially that even on Val Day he will not put effort into your relationship. Even though he does not want to 'finish' I think he is wanting the best of two worlds - at your expense. Suggest you both have a break from each other and see how it goes from there. It may be difficult for you but better than being there under his terms alone. Good Luck on whatever you decide (A mature person).
2007-02-08 13:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the line of comunication open between you two. talk to him about it! if that goes down the drain it all goes. if that's already going then do your best to get it back. tell him it's serious and that it's important to you that all of these isues are out in the open. My fiance and I have been dating for a year on the 16th, he lives in AL. so I don't get to spend much time with him. I know how you feel and I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. But think positive thoughts and try to feel positive about the outcome. God Bless and good luck!
2007-02-08 12:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by messagebeliever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be cheating. Could be working hard and too tired or could have just lost interest. Which ever if any of the above you really need to do some talking. Without talking there is no way you will be able to get to the bottom of it. Good communication is the key.
2007-02-08 12:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to address this head on. Be diplomatic of course but basically you need to make him aware of how his actions are making you feel. If he says that its not his fault or isn't prepared to consider how to go about improving your relationship then perhaps he isn't the man for you afterall. This should be the happiest time of your life being engaged and looking forward to spending your life with someone but so far it doesn't sound like you're very happy at all. Some long, hard thinking is needed... is he really right for you? For ever? Good luck.
2007-02-08 12:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, one thing I've learned NOT to do. I will not compete for a man's attention. Either you like me or you don't. Ask him what's going on and why his changes and give examples and be specific. If he can't tell you, blows it off or dances around it, something else is going on. If he can't reassure you of anything and able to change his ways to improve the relationship, it's time to move on. You're still engaged and thankfully not legal binded by anything. You can still get out if you need too. Good luck!
2007-02-08 12:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Valentines Day is a Hallmark holiday- I wouldn't worry about that.
Get him a card telling him how much he means to you, and that you're so happy to be a part of his life....
Do you live together? People need space, and it could be that he's just taking his before the wedding...he's not necessarily cheating, but you should talk to him.
2007-02-08 12:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and have a chat and tell him exactly whats on Ur mind. I've just broken up with my boyfriend because he doesn't have enough time for me,it hurts but i have to put myself first. men need to understand that women have needs and want alot of love so if he cant give u that then leave him or try and work things out it up 2 u.good luck p.s i hope u don't end up feeling like me(UN-wanted)
2007-02-08 20:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by carly m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he busy with work ? Is something bothering him?
Find out why he seems distant now. Guys are like that sometimes. Don't panic just yet. As for valentine's day, you can plan something and surprise him. Spice up your relationship.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 12:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by ce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋