im not a virgin, is that bad?

Question

I LOST MY VIRGINITY AT A VERY YOUNG AGE?!? TRY THE AGE OF 11 1/2 BUT IT WASNT MY FAULT I WAS RAPED WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Answer 1

I would seek counseling. Because you are seeking validation for the state of your virginity it seems like your rape should be something you discuss and come to terms with.

Answer 2

This was not your fault. Even though you were penetrated, this man did NOT have your consent to do so. So even though physically you are not a virgin, spiritually you are. I hope you reported him, or called the police. A rapist needs to be locked up. I also hope you were able to recover from this.
I'm not sure what kind of answer you're looking for in this, so I'll try to keep it in a broad range.
If this is about a boyfriend, or partner, or husband, and he doesn't know that you were raped, it's up to you. If he finds out you're not a virgin, he may be bothered, or he may not care to judge you for it. If you choose to tell him, which I'm sure could make you uncomfortable, just be honest. Tell him, I never gave my consent, and my physical virginity was TAKEN from me at a young age. I did not consent. I was not ready. I did not want to lose my virginity. This way he understands that this was a very unfortunate event for you. Honesty is always better. But also understand that your privacy is important to you too.
If this about the rape itself, and getting justice, it depends on how old you are now, and how long ago that was. Some places have a limit on how long you can pursue something like this. For example, the workers compensation court of oklahoma *works with ppl who were injured on the job* only alots a few years to file for worker's comp from the time the accident was reported.
My advice, if this was more recent, call a rape hotline, and ask one of the recipients of your call. They will probably know more about what to do depending on the area you live in. You also should get a pelvic exam. You can ask your treating doctor to refer you to an OBGYN, a gynocologist, who can do a pelvic exam for damage, including to the hymin, and test for STDs.

Answer 3

You will have to realize some things about life, and that your question here really goes much deeper. You need to seek professional help, and you need to make sure that the person you see is good for you.

Please seek a psychologist, or psychiatrist and tell him/her everything. Don't hold back, and only then will you be able to find peace. They can and will help you find peace. This problem will only grow and become unbearable the longer you keep it in. Only accept the best, because that's what you deserve.

And to answer your question I do not think being a virgin has any consequence in the big scheme of things. I'd tell anyone to just forget about it, even if they weren't in your situation.

I wish you luck, and hope that you will not give up on yourself.

Answer 4

Honey - you are still considered a virgin. You lose that when you willing give yourself to another person.

What happened was not your fault and was out of your control. Don't hold yourself responsible in any way or think less of yourself.

And any man that you are with - who really loves and respects you - won't judge you

Make sure you get some help - especially for the sake of future relationships. Just being able to talk about it with someone who won't judge you can be healing. Closure may be a myth, but you don't have to be haunted by it. It can stay in the past where it belongs.

Answer 5

If it wasn't your fault then there is no wrong in it.

There's nothing you can do, in phsyical ways, virginity is a hymen barrier, a small little white barrier that signals "virginity".

In terms of definition, a virgin is someone who has not had consensual intercourse.

In religious terms, someone is a virgin until they have a willing act of sex with another man.

So just because you were misfortuned and raped, doesn't mean that you're a wh0r3 or dirty in anyway.

There's no help out of it-- You can face it and just tell them you were raped. Or let it lie and let it be none of their business.

Answer 6

What should you do? How old are you now? You should consider reporting the rape to the authorities. You should get some counseling. It may require counseling for you to come to terms with what happened to you. You may need it to have a healthy sexual life in the future. If you don't want to get counseling, talk to someone about it. If you are still a minor, find an adult whom you trust and talk to him or her about the rape.

Answer 7

It wasn't your fault. There is nothing you can do, and I wouldn't worry about it.
When you meet someone you care about enough that you want to take that step you will feel comfortable enough to confide in him. He will understand. Believe me, as far as guys are concerned not being a virgin is NOT a big deal.
And if he DOESN'T understand, or thinks it IS a big deal, DROP HIM LIKE A HOT POTATO. You don't need someone that short-sighted in you life.
I'll pray for you.

Answer 8

11 in a half is bad but you cant do anything about it now. you just need to get past it and not think about it but you so not have to count that as your first if you do want to

Answer 9

will it was not your fault , so thats not bad, but wait until u find the person who loves u just dont give it up to easy and quick, because it u do u just might get used and u will really regreat it.

Answer 10

how old r u now... if u did get raped u need to tell someone but it might be hard to charge the guy now.
once it is lost it is lost