I plan on having a "distant wedding." I refuse to call it a destination wedding because it will be in my native city and country, where my parents still live. It's in Brazil, so it has opposite seasons to the US. I know winter in Brazil is barely worthy of the name winter, but I still want to avoid the months of june-september.
Some of my friends, but most importantly one of his cousins and his "cousin-in-law" have restraints however. It is out of the question to have a wedding from january-april for his cousin who is an accountant, and his cousin in law is a teacher. We haven't discussed it with him yet (we would rather put that off). But we are hoping to have an october or november wedding.
The question is- is it reasonable for most (public) HS teachers to take off 3 days in october? That's what subs are for, right?
I would love to get a teacher's perspective!
2007-02-08 04:21:35 · 8 answers · asked by ddv718 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Actually the cousins are more like sisters to him. And he was a groomsman in his cousin's wedding with the teacher in question. Quite possibly the teacher would be a groomsman in ours too.
I think a trip to Brazil needs at least 4 days (12 hour trip each way including 1 transfer in Sao Paulo), and we're hoping to do it on Veteran's day weekend. But if he could take a day or off he may actually get his money's worth for the trip and see a few of the sights.
2007-02-08 07:24:35 · update #1
i am a public school teacher in pa. most school districts give 3-5 personal days/year. so yes, it would be realistic for them to come & take off for 3 days, but it would be expecting them to use all of their personal days up in the beginning of the school year. some school districts also allow people to take "unpaid" days off through out the school year, but they usually make you use your personal days first. if they really want to be at your wedding, then they will figure it out!
2007-02-08 04:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kirsten S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
October sounds nice. I'm not a teacher, but recently had a family member who is, take 4 days to come for an important family thing. Yes, that IS what subs are for.
Set your date, send out your invitations, and hope for the best. The teacher will have to decide whether to come, or simply send a card. If he's a cousin in law, he may not feel closely related enough to take the time off and make arrangements to come.
Remember also, that it is kind of expensive to travel for some. And, they'll have to obtain passports, I think. Get those invitations out early enough so the guests can make arrangements. Please don't feel offended if many of them can't make it.
You may be better off by having your wedding with your own family, and then a party in the States for those who can't travel that far.
2007-02-08 04:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard for a high school teacher to just get up and leave during the middle of the school year. A teacher's responsibility is to properly teach their students, in a timely manner. Taking a whole 3 day off and mess up teacher's lesson plan/schedule for the whole year. Three days is a long time for students to be with a sub, whom might not teach them properly or at all. Also, what if the teacher is in the middle of a difficult unit or lesson, if he goes away for that long he might compromise his student's learning the material properly.
It is a lot to ask a teacher to just get up and leave. Secondly, they may need to save those 3 days for when they are sick or have a personal emergency.
2007-02-08 04:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i remember in highschool having teachers who'd take 3 days off...we all threw a figurative party when we had subs!! and if you try to plan it so it'd fall on a weekend, (not saying you have, i know most weddings are on weekends anyway...) then they could get away with one day off, and then the weekend days would make three. it'd be just fine! my highschool let teachers take off whenever they needed them for whatever reason!! i actually think one of my teachers took about 2 or 3 days off for a wedding my junior year...so yah, it's not a problem!
anyway!! it's your wedding, so why plan it around when the family members can do it? plan it when you want, and becasue they love you, they'll come!!
2007-02-08 05:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can accommodate every single person you know, with your wedding date. Pick a date that works for you and your immediate family, and who ever can make it, great. For the rest, show them your pictures. A cousin, and cousin-in-law are not exactly crucial. Maybe you could have a small reception when you get back, for the people who were unable to travel to Brazil. Good luck.
2007-02-08 04:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have it over Thanksgiving weekend. That's in November and teacher's have those 4 days.
2007-02-08 06:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 21:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a teacher, but I will be one day. Of course they can take days off...that is what subs are for.
2007-02-08 05:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋