I really need some help!?

Question

I dont really know what to do... So I need everyones help. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He talks about marriage all the time.. But I can feel our relationship just getting worse. He loves me.. But everything he does I can stand. Like calling me names... ect. Dont get me wrong he is a sweet guy when he wants to be. I started dating him last year.. and wanted a way out but I was lonley.. and had been heart broken. His mom went bankrupt and he cant hold onto money himself. His not much fun anymore... and I was looking for someone romantice and exciting and fun! I dont want to break up... but at the same time I do... I dont wanna break his heart. And it seems like he can tell Im slipping away.

Should I stay or should I go? lol

Answer 1

baby girl, you should go. think of what makes you happy. people stay in a bad relationship just for the sake of being in one. look around, i'm sure you can name quite a few that you know that they just go around like a routine. so ask yourself: is this what i want; it will be like this for years to come. i'm sure now you see the light.

Answer 2

I've been in your shoes and in my younger, immature years I was in your boyfriend's shoes. Either way, you are both headed down a long, trechorous path. Bail now and have a clean break with him. Don't linger around and keep his hopes up. If you care for him, say good-bye and be gone. He won't see it now, but you'll be doing him a great favor. Not too long from now, you won't even be thinking about this crumby situation and you will have met someone way better. You've reached your threshold for tollerance, bad feelings are piling up inside, they aren't going anywhere and the pile is getting bigger. It should be over with! I know it can be hard to let go, but trust me, it will be even harder on him and you when you finally do, which you will, if you don't get it over with now. All this being said, take a look in the mirror and rationally ask yourself "Did I contribute to things being the way they are." If your answer is "Yes", don't contibute those same things to your future relationships.

Answer 3

If you really love him, you wouldn't be asking this question. You wouldn't be asking for advice. It seems to me like the only reason you haven't broken up with him yet is that you are scared of breaking his heart. So you care, but not enough to keep on going. Staying in the relationship at this point will only turn out badly, for both of you. You will continue being irritated with him, and he may finally pop the question - what do you do then? You need to talk to him about this, and I mean talk. He needs to understand that you don't feel as if your relationship is what it used to be. But do it gently, like you said, you don't want to break his heart.

Answer 4

It sounds like it may be time to go . If you are already getting bored and looking for something more, that's one sign. If he's not good with money, that's truly a bad sign. Most who are irresponsible with money are going to be like that with everything else in their lives. That part is true =( I've read it, seen it, talked to people who have problems like that. Let him down easy and tell him why you want to be out. Once it's over, don't jump into something else right away. Go out and have fun! Have some down time and do your own thing! Then see how you feel =)
Good luck!

Answer 5

You are doomed in this relationship, it is best now to get out. Why waste any more time, What is wrong with being by yourself? Don't you think it is better, then having someone calling you names. and not treating you right? You have to learn to make your self happy, join clubs, or take a class, to meet people. Go to the library, and get books on self esteem. Join a church group!

Answer 6

If your feelings have changed, which in a lot of relationships they do. Then the best thing to do is "talk it out".

Call him up, and meet him somewhere. (Bring a couple of your close friends just in-case he tries anything harmful.) And then tell him that your feelings have changed, and apologize for hurting him, and say that it's in his and your best interest if you went your seperate ways.

Yes yes, the typical break-up excuse, he'll probably call you a ***** and a wh0r3. But you know that your intentions were sincere.

Answer 7

you should stay. and i know mos people would say stupidly go. the reason why is because you need to talk to him immediatly. you dont wanna just break up and then you would have wasted your time. just make sure you explain to him what you expect of him. if you guys are discussing marriage then thats a good thing. that will make him wanna try more if you tell him to change or marriage wont happen. good luck!

Answer 8

This sounds like a breeding ground for divorce. Believe me, things that bother you don't get better. They either get resolved or they get worse. More often than not, they get worse. Why stay with a guy who doesn't make you completely happy? Move on before it's too late.

Answer 9

it sounds like you have answered your own question. He calls you names and you don't like it, but he's a sweet guy? You being lonely isn't enough to stay with someone. I know how it is to be lonely.....I'm a long haul truck driver....but that's not good enough reason to stay with someone you don't love. Don't worry so much about breaking his heart, and worry more about how your heart feels. It's not selfish, it's living the one life you have.

Answer 10

Go... life is too short to be unhappy & you obviously aren't happy!!! You can't just stay with someone because you are afraid of being lonely. Your young you should be having an intense relationship with someone who makes you feel special!!! FIND THAT!!