about a year ago i ran into this guy and we instantly clicked.It was definitly a mutual attraction.i was still bitter about catching my ex of few years cheating(they r mutual friends)he listened and understood,he drove me home that night and i invited him to stay,i asked him to sleep in the bed with me,he did,i asked him to put his arm around me,he did till i slept,he was such a gentlman.things were awkward when he left the next morning,a mutual friend said he liked me but was freaked about my ex(who is still,1 1/2 yrs later,trying to get me back)so this guy kept his distance.i saw him 2 months later and he came to me and said"your killing me"my ex was also there and upset that we liked eachother.I sent him a text a couple weeks later and he never replied.i saw him again at a party 6 months later,he walked in saw me and looked away quick.my x was at the party also,i know i need to stay away from my x but my brother is best friends with him,so he will always be around.
2007-02-08 04:20:00 · 16 answers · asked by kerri r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me that this man really likes you and not only that he has respect for women in general...He not looking to get his heart broken so he is distant from you, pretty much I think your playing with him and that's what gives us good women a bad name, and it makes it harder for us good women to find someone like that..shame on you.!
2007-02-08 04:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it a fair chance. Might not be true love but doesnt sound like you are willing to give it a fair chance. You will need to stay clear from your ex to heal. You do not have to see your brother when the ex is around. Tell your brother how it is affecting your life. Im sure your brother will be a little more cautious for your sake. In time you will forget about him even being your ex but its fresh... so stay away. The other guy- He might not work out but He is important in ur life as an example... Keep ur eye open for another.... But remember what u learned here-
2007-02-08 04:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Christal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me on this one. If you really like this guy, make it as clear as possible that "the ex" is no longer a part of your life and won't ever be. Mean it when you say it. Don't ever bring his name up again or refer to him in anyway. Clear "the ex" out of all thought processes you have. My ex-girlfriend of 3-years did NOT do this. It made me feel like I would never be #1. Anyways, I ended up dumping her and her ex-boyfriend baggage. Sounds to me like you are viewed as someone with baggage and I don't think you can blame the guy. Dump the baggage whether it be for the new guy you like or any other future relationship. Also, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions either about thinking this new guy really likes you just because he was a gentlemen and spooned you. For all you know, the guy is avoiding you because you didn't put out.
2007-02-08 05:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is does not sound like true love, it sounds like you are just trying to goad your old boyfriend with this new guy. The boat left the dock on the new guy when you two did not begin a relationship when you had the chance. If I were the new guy I would want to stay away from you. You asked a lot from him with the staying and hugging you all night and then you were distant with him in the days after.
2007-02-08 04:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither of you know what/who you want. It is human nature to like being loved and having attention payed to you. If this guy slept in the same bed as you and was a gentleman it doesn't necessarily mean that it is love. Maybe he just did not want to upset your ex.
2007-02-08 04:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by eyedoc999 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without sounding harsh, my suggestion to you is that you grow up. You are playing games with people...and you are making foolish decisions. Asking someone to share your bed...even without sex...the first time you meet them is irresponsible and dangerous. He may be very attracted to you, but your actions have not inspired him to respect you very much.
You need to cut both ties and work on yourself for a while. The world does not revolve around love or relationships. You need to get yourself sorted out, take responsibility for your actions and decisions and then, maybe then, you will be ready for an adult relationship.
2007-02-08 04:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it could be, but you need some more time to see how you really connect. As far as your Ex, you need to talk to your brother and depending on how understanding he is, see if he can perhaps spend less time with your Ex as it is very uncomfortable for you. Explain that if the situation was reversed for him and you were friends with one of his Ex's that he would be very uncomfortable to have her around with you. Most importantly I think that if you really want to pursure Mr. Gentlemen you should do so, even if it takes you running into him somewhere just to be able to talk to him. You can let your Ex ruin your potential relationship.
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2007-02-08 04:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dillon 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have heard of the phrase "Bros before Hos" This phrase is almost never true. When my buddies and I liked a girl they would always go for the chick. If he really likes you then he would go for it. You sound smart and pretty you should probably find someone else.
2007-02-08 04:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by McKay S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like love u need to find your x a girl so u can go out with this boy
2007-02-08 04:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by Softball_lover08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it could be true love but you should go up to him and find out if he likes you and if he wants to be more then friends with you.
2007-02-08 04:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋